how do you deal with depression?

Question

i am 14 i suffer with depression my mum doesnt no and i dont really want to tell her can you help me please!!!!

Answer 1

You should definitely speak with your mother abotu this. If you are not comfortable doing that seek your guidance counselor at school. They should be able to help you.

Answer 2

First thing, get adequate exercise. It helps. Smell the flowers while you're walking (or bicycling, if you have one) around the block.

Second thing, eat a balanced diet. Have a bit of Wild Alaska Salmon. Couldn't hurt. Since you're a girl, you might try soymilk or other soy products too. A banana or apple for lunch may help.

Last, you need a hobby and friends. Join a club at school. Get interested. Participate.

In the meantime, don't let your life slide. Some day it'll be important. Go to school every day, pay attention in class, do the homework, read the assigned text. Trust me, an "A" on a paper or quiz is a mood enhancer.

Answer 3

You ask the difficult questions in life, and you come up with the answers on your own. Sometimes, depression is a biological phenomenon that is hard to treat, so you need professional help in a case like this. Sometimes, depression is a result of social or intellectual conflicts you have with yourself or the external world. I compare depression to being "stuck" in life. In this case, you ask the difficult questions in life, and you come up with the answers . . . on your own.

If you think about your problems long enough, you will come with good solutions. People who do not like thinking "too deeply" about things live their lives with no meaning or purpose. I believe that you will get "unstuck" if you take the time to think deeply about solutions to your problems. You cannot stay in one rut forever without improving unless you give up.

I will give you some sample questions if you can't think of any. Again, you cannot ask anyone else the answer, because no human being on earth has the true answers. (They are mostly philosophical questions).

1) Why is human suffering inevitable? What is the nature of human suffering?
2) Is it more important to be popular or intelligent? Why?
3) Is it more important to be beautiful or intelligent? Why?
4) Is it more important to be intelligent or artistic? Why?
5) What is the definition of "beauty?"
6) What is the definition of a good person?
7) What is the definition of "good?"
8) How do you differentiate between good and evil?
9) What does "trying to better yourself" mean? What does "trying to better the world" mean?
10) Is it better to "stay in one place" or "move forward?"
11) What does the word "better" mean?

The Bible may give you easy answers, but it is up to you to decide whether those answers are good or not. If you need help with these questions, "Zen and Art of Motorcycle Maintenance" (ZAMM) and "Lila: An Inquiry into Morals" (both by Robert Pirsig) may help you.

If you do not like reading books, I wish that you would start. If you are not going to answer any of these questions or read "ZAMM" or "Lila," know that good people in the world exist, and they can help you. If you don't believe me, make yourself into a good person and prove the world wrong.

Answer 4

You are in what's called a "Catch 22" situation. What I mean by that is: Your mother should be your closest confidant. Obviously, she isn't. Where's this put you? No place to turn. Or is it? You came here asking for help. Unfortunately, the chance of finding an expert is remote.
What about a suicide hot line from the yellow pages? Surely, they could steer you in the right direction for professional help.
The good thing is at least you know that you are depressed. When I got divorced, I didn't recognize that I WAS depressed.
Fortunately, my family doctor found out and got me in touch with professionals. I was on medication for awhile, even. Time helped, as well.
Good luck...and remember that if you get so depressed that you think about suicide -- it is just a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Answer 5

Are you sure that you suffer with depression i mean clinical?

Is your relation with your mum good?

Try to talk to her when she is in a good mood, after having a good nap or meal and not if she is nervous or tired after work. In this way her mind and body will be most ready to listen to you and feel what you feel.

Keep eye contact, sit near to her, this is a serious conversation. If you feel ok let her hug you. Try simple words and not a list of accusations like "o mum you are making my life miserable". Describe your feelings in a slow pace and try to remain calm.

Say that your feelings persist, depression is an everyday battle and say "mum i need help"

She has to understand that this is not a fase, its not something that just comes and will go easily.

If you have a counselor in your school try also talking to him.

But strenghtening your relationship with your mum will be a progress that will help you go on in the rest of your life.

Let yourself loose to cry or write down your feelings when you are alone so step by step when you will read it you will understand which are the problems that insist ans make you depressed.

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Answer 6

You need to tell her that you are experiencing a feeling of depression. Whether it is or not only your doctor can help diagnose. Many teenagers, due to all the hormones that are surging through your body, experience volatile feelings. By talking this out with your mum you will realise that you are not isolated.

It may be that your hormones are more erratic than the "norm" or you do have issues that need discussing privately. Either way tell your mum (or if there is reasons why this is not possible) contact a Childline type service and discuss with one of the specialist counsellors.

Good luck.

Answer 7

You need to find an adult that you can trust, Vanessa. I'm sure there is one. You mum SHOULD be a good start, but if not there are the school counsellors or perhaps you can try calling a youth help line.

Look in your phone book and speak to someone there at very least!

There are a lot of things you need to do to deal with depression and you are going to need some help from an adult who knows about this sort of stuff.

Answer 8

Very simple, I was misdiagnosed w/ depression which is very common, but then I was properly diagnosed w/ bipolar disorder. Medication & talk therapy work, trust me! I went to support groups for 2-3 yrs.. I am 200% better now. I had 2 suicide attempts & my cousin & at least 5 of my friends killed themselves. Go see a Dr. You might need a second opinion. I've had 5 Dr.s & 10 Therapists & have tried 20 different combinations of medications. Even though the meds make u feel funny you have to take them for 4-8 weeks B4 you switch.Good Luck. The longer you go without treatment the longer the recovery. I wasn't diagnosed for years, I'm in my 6th yr. of recovery & going to college, volunteering for the Humane society, doing alright.

Answer 9

First why are you depressed do you know ?I have a 15 year old he keeps from being depressed by staying so busy with his friends ,my oldest when he was your age was very depressed but it was because he would not get out and do anything ,give us more reasons as to why you feel this way and we can better help you .and why dont you want to talk to mom ?

Answer 10

You should tell her. If you have depression, you probably think you can hide it well (I thought I could), but they have probably noticed a change in your personality and are afraid to approach you. It makes a big difference when someone as important to you like your mum knows, it's a real weight off. It helped me A LOT. Failing that, get your GP to refer you to a counsellor, so you have someone to confine your feelings to.

Answer 11

i can terll you what i've done and try to stay busy and just take ur time and let yourself catchup //Deoression is terrible and i used to think it was a cop out until i went into depression after surgery-- You need to tell you mom and just say "will you please help me i dont know what to do" just find a time when she is not real busy and i'm pretty sure she can help but keep that chin up partner you have a whole lot of living ahead of you and this is just one way mother nature is preparing you to really enjoy it-- may God bless you !!