My wife has had three affairs. Her latest one was with a guy she met while away at her home town. She is 40 and he was 29. She met him at a bar and I assume things clicked and well, who knows what really happened. She says nothing happend but I've read her emails from this guy and they are all sexual in content.
This would be the third time I've caught her cheating. I cant take it anymore and want to kick her out. We have two boys, 14 and 16. Can I leagaly pack her bags and change the locks?
2006-09-01 07:32:20 · 44 answers · asked by Pilot 202 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
legally NO!
practically yes.
2006-09-01 07:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Roland 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who keeps the house usually has more to do with who keeps the kids than whether they are the husband or the wife. Its legally all about keeping things as calm and consistent for the kids as possible so if you plan to keep the boys with you then yes by all means...calmly tell her that you are done with her crap and that you are taking the boys to dinner and you expect her to be gone when you get back and you expect her to stay gone. Contacting a lawyer beforehand would be a great idea just so you know exactly what your rights are. Also make sure you close down any joint bank accounts and/or credit cards BEFORE she goes, in fact before you even mention it. I'm not saying she isn't entitled to any cash, unfortunately I'm sure she is but leaving joint accounts open gives her the power to destroy your credit too and she has done enough damage. Good luck.
2006-09-01 07:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you can't do that and what you can do is go to court and get custody of the kids. Don't delete the emails and print them out as evidence against her. You deserve to be happy to and if she isn't happy with you then she doesn't need a husband. You let her stay even after she cheated on you 2 other times. When there is no trust how can there be love? Just be honest with the children and they will understand. It's not like they are 5 or 6 they are teenagers and its never a good idea to stay with your spouse for the children's sake. Assure them that this is not their fault and they didn't do anything to make their mother want to go out and cheat on you. No court will give her custody and you will keep the house and kids and the dog too. God bless you.
2006-09-01 07:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can nor should you. Remember the children in all of this. How do they feel about their mother.
I would urge you strongly not to turn the boys against her. Keep them out of the issues.
But I would certainly speak to a lawyer first and see what your legal options are in this case.
Keep proof of her indiscretions if you can.
Seems like this woman is acting out a fantasy that will cost her big time and will lead to many regrets later on.
Since we really don't know all the details and only your side of the story, I would be hesitant to recommend anything else. We don't know the issues involved.
Good luck!
2006-09-01 07:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you will have to file for divorce, petition the court for an order for her to immediately vacate the premises, unless she just moves out, and then after she leaves, you can legally change the locks and get a restraining order keeping her away fro the premises. One idea though, with the divorce pending, petition the court to allow the boys decide on who they want to be with, theyre old enough to decide,otherwise the court will award them to their mother unless you can prove child or drug abuse. Adultery wont do it. Most states have no fault divorces so you wont be able to get back at her here. Good luck and if I can be of further assistance,please feel free to email me.
2006-09-01 07:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Have YOU cheated? Be honest!
2. If you bought the house together, then NO, you cannot change the locks and stuff. She owns half of it too.
3. See a family counselor.
4. See a lawyer.
Good luck.
2006-09-01 07:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jessiekatsopolous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could, legally, but you are both adults, why do that? Just tell her to get out. Your children are old enough to decide who they want to reside with, so, trying to get custody of them would be in vain. After you help her get her things out, I would defiantly change the locks so she can't come back for anything else. Let everything else be decided in divorce court. And be sure you get copies of those emails. Those will help your case. I think... they may not be admissible. At any rate, if she knows you have them then it might be enough. You may want to hire a private investigator just to get proof of her activity. Good luck man.
2006-09-01 07:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can but you have to file separation papers. Then let the judge know that she needs to leave because on 3 different occations she has chosen to participate in extra marital activities. She can be ordered to move. Then later you can divorce her. BTW forward those emails to yourself as evidence against her.
2006-09-01 07:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 times and you're still with her. I would have kicked her out after the first time. I'd get all of my ducks in a row and consult a lawyer. Then send her packing. No one deserves to be treated the way she has treated you.
2006-09-01 07:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by LJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't see why not, but in the long run she is going to get half. You might end up having to sell the place and split it. Try filing for divorce and getting a really good attorney.
2006-09-01 07:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i do not think it would be legal. Get a lawyer and go through the proper channels. It will be a long road, but worth it in the long run to be done with a cheater! The best of luck to you!
2006-09-01 07:36:54 · answer #11 · answered by melinda_rn2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋