Last he got he got obliterated and completly hit on a girl at the bar... slow danced with her, grinding, and blatant flirting. He claimed it was nothing... but I'm not blind. I saw what I saw. When we left he decided to tell her what a pleasure it was to meet her, and hold her hand for roughly 10 minutes. We finally leave and I discuss with him in the car on the way home what happened, and why on earth he did that.... he proceeded to throw my car into park while I was driving, and act like an ***. I told him to knock it off and he decided to climb out the window of my car, onto the roof, and jump off and run off... all while I was doing about 35 - 40 MPH.
He took off running like a drunken fool into a wooded area, and came home 4 hours later (at 5 am)... he literally walked around for hours. All day today he is "too hungover", "too/sore" to talk about what happened... he is literally "sleeping" on the couch across the room right now. Help me NOT sound as bitter as I am.
2006-09-01 07:28:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ask him if he enjoyed the last ride
2006-09-01 07:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Roland 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is decide not to care. Don't be there when he wakes up - go to the mall or the library or coffee shop and you be missing for hours. When you come back act nonchalant and mysterious. Keep up the mystery and the I-don't-care attitude until he begins to feel threatened by it and jealous, and seeks YOU out to talk about last night. Then, (not angrily) tell him that you don't care what excuse he had, or how he THINKS he acted, just that if he ever disrespects you like that again, he can take a hike.
Keeping the air of mystery about where you keep going (tell him the truth but keep him guessing about who you might be meeting etc.), casually say that there are plenty of other guys who would love to be in his place and who wouldn't DARE treat you like that.
But gf, the worst thing you can do is to chase him down to talk about it. You're letting him have the upper hand, when YOU deserve it. TAKE the upper hand by showing him that people want to charm you and hit on you and be with you, if he doesn't. But do this by showing him it could actually happen, by BEING INDEPENDENT and MYSTERIOUS!
Good luck!!
2006-09-01 07:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO Fin Way... That is to disrespectful.. I mean you do stupid things when you are drunk, but you dont go and flirt with another girl like that. I would have killed him lol.. Why didn't you stop him while you were in the bar?
I wonder has close he gets to other girls when you are not there. Sounds to me like he is not very trustworthy.
Go over to him on the couch right now, pour a bucket of water on his head, and tell him to either talk to you or leave... FOREVER!!
2006-09-01 07:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. I had a bf that acted that way one time. I decided that he needed more help than anything I could give him. Problem was, I was pregnant with his child. I still left him. He has no interest in his daughter whatsoever, but his sister and grandmother buy her things and ask her to come over on occasions. You really need to dump him. Don't say anything to him, just leave. Unless it's your house, then when he wakes up, tell him that you are too old to be playing games and he needs to leave. I promise, you won't regret it. My little girls father ended up quiting his job so he wouldn't have to pay child support for his other two children (I never even bothered) and married a dead beat mom who never keeps her child and won't pay support either. They are fit for each other.
Just leave and don't look back!
2006-09-01 07:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rGirl you just answered your own question! You nor anyone else needs this dude. He is a jerk to the max!
There are so many other good guys out there, leave him now before he hurts you further.
Ask yourself, "Do I want to waste my time with someone like him?"
Get serious about school and you will wise up quickly that he doesn't have the qualities you should be looking for.
Keep looking. Don't ever be desparate for a guy.
2006-09-01 07:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the exact words u can tell him..... (while sitting on a chair accross the sofa he's sleeping at....and do it the moment he wakes up) ....."I didn't sleep the whole night and i gave our relationship much thought, I'm not good enough for you and I honestly can tell you that I feel the same. I cant be with a guy who treats me like s**t and does not respect me. You are an a**hole, and I don't want to be with you anymore." That's it...straightforward....short and sweet.
2006-09-01 07:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you say, "Good morning. You have 5 minutes to get out of this house. You and I are through. End of discussion." Don't debate or argue about it with him. He is an IDIOT and you are making the right decision. Look what everyone else is saying on Yahoo answers...that should tell you somethin'.
2006-09-01 07:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you have a right to be bitter. I was in a terrible marriage for 10 years with someone just like your boyfriend. Don't be dumb like me. Get out of that relationship while you can. Someone as unpredictable as he is... who knows what he can do. Sounds like he needs the help, not you.
2006-09-01 07:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by calichick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get all his Sh*T together in trash bags! then wake his lazy cheatin butt up with the loudest noise you can make.
kick him out. You do not deserve that disrespect!! if you tolirate once he will think he can do it again.
Never allow anyone to treat you badly. (much less in public for gods sake!) He sounds like a juvielle moron who needs to go home to mommy till he is ready for a real women.
2006-09-01 07:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by gar_1930 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont wait for him to wake up, blast him in the face and chew his ***. That should get the point acrossed
2006-09-01 07:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be bitter honey just kick his *** to the curb, and smile all the while!
2006-09-01 07:33:15 · answer #11 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋