She has had nothing to do with this spouse for over a year do to the fact that he is a dead beat father who doesn't pay child support and was abusive in the relationship. I really like this woman, but don't know if we should get invovled this fast or if I should hold back and wait for things to be finalized? But then again I don't need a piece of paper telling me its over. Just curious what you guyz think?
2006-09-01 07:22:00 · 26 answers · asked by Celticgreen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on how she was married, by a priest or minister, or by a judge or justice of the peace. A marriage is only considered binding religiously when it is done by a man (or woman) or god. So, unless that is the case, she is not really married and adultery does not enter into it.
2006-09-05 02:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while to finalize the divorce nowadays; however, the formal "finalization" doesn't necessarily co-inside with the emotional one. If you feel that she is indeed "over" her soon-to-be-ex emotionally, there's nothing wrong with getting involved. It takes some people years to get over a failed relationship - they keep looking back and lamenting the past, which precludes them from having a healthy relationship in the present. Others assess their losses and their gains, and move on fairly quickly. You should get some feeling for where this woman stands as you get to know her better.
2006-09-01 14:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It alll depends on the people if you are comfortable being with her even she is technically still married. Why not?? I have been with my boyfriend for a year but my divorce will not be final until 9/13/06 he knew that up front and this has been the best relationship for both of us. Give it time. Work on it just make sure she is not stringing you along.
2006-09-01 14:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is actually a religious thing. In the eyes of God, one marries for life, and divorces arent condoned by God, but adultery is defined in the Bible, in its littlest terms as even looking at another woman with lust. So if one is supposed to marry for life according to God, then having sex during seperation actually breaks one of the Ten Commandments about not coveting thy neighbors wife. Divorce is a product of mankind not God. We all have something to answer for on Judgement Day, so what happens on earth will happen right or wrong.
2006-09-01 14:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, divorces (especially contested divorces) take forever. The relationship is long since over by the time things are finalized in the eyes of the state.
2006-09-01 14:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by Toga748 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if she does get divorced its still adultery. Marriage is foresaking all others until death you do part! Plus you don't need someone with baggage. How do you know you would not have trouble with her spouse? He might react differently (jealous) once another man is in her picture. Some men don't want anyone else to have her either.
Watch out!
2006-09-01 14:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The emotional part is over for her, well sort of, but the legal part of being married is not. You both would technically be committing adultery. This woman should be using this time to heal and get healthy enough for any future relationships she may choose. Let her have this time to do that. Otherwise she will repeat her mistakes.
2006-09-01 14:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by toolate4me? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why push things. If they two of you are so happy together, then waiting won't matter, right? And, just some fyi, it is adultery whether she is divorced, going through a divorce, or still married. Bible is pretty clear on that!
2006-09-01 14:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can decide your own moral standards but the Bible says it's adultry if you are not married to the person you are having sex with. This is because if you are not married to them they are someone's spouse/future spouse.
2006-09-01 14:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biblically....Adultary is the act of having sex as a married person, outside of the marriage union.
Fornication is the act of having sex as a single person,outside of marriage.
A widow is released from adultary, but can in fact commit fornication.
2006-09-01 14:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by bandaidgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋