I’m 22, Japanese girl. He’s 26, Persian. I'm doing my master degree in Malaysia and he's doing his PHD degree in Malaysia. We've known each other for one month. During the one month, we traveled a lot. Since then, he asked me to share the exact half of all the expenditure with him, and I always pay the exact money. From the second time we met each other, he holded my hand everywhere. But he would loose my hand if he ran into his friends. At the third time he touched my face many times in the cinema. The fourth time he put his hand inside my skirt. And I told him I like him very much cos he’s a gentle, good-looking and smart PHD. I asked him if he likes me but he said he doesn’t want to answer. I dunno it’s a joke or he doesn’t like me at all. And since then, I was not so excited to meet him cos I think he’s just playing with me. He never answered me whether he likes me or not, but every time he invited me to come to see him. He told me he wants to stay in Malaysia, and I really think he would like to marry a Muslim woman instead of me for his obscure words. So I really wanna stop the relationship with him. No matter I leave him or not, my heart is broken now.
2006-09-01 07:15:44 · 8 answers · asked by Ilikeraisin 1 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Other - Africa & Middle East
To be honest, it sounds like he is just playing. I imagine his family would have a heart attack if they knew he was dating a Japanese girl, no offense intended. That doesn't mean he wouldn't like to see how far he can get you to have sex with him, however.
In my opinion, if he is serious about you he wouldn't be ashamed to be seen holding your hand by ANYONE. It also sounds like you pretty much know this already. Go with your instinct, sweetheart. If your instinct is telling you that he's not for real, even though he seems like such a great guy, then listen!
You're being used as entertainment and nothing more. Cut and run! Find someone who is PROUD to be with you, ESPECIALLY around his friends! You definitely deserve better!
2006-09-01 07:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by crazygodddesss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does like you but he is afraid of the relationship. You said he is Muslim but you dont say what religion you are. There are some religions that are forbidden in Islam. For example Muslims are forbidden to marry Hindu's or any religion that has more than one God or that bows to statues. Maybe he doesn't know if you would be willing to change your religion for him.
The best thing to do is ask him, be open and honest and talk to each other, ask him questions about his religion, values and family. Then tell him about yours. See if they are compatible.
Pick up a book on Islam and then ask him about it and see how he reacts. Dont do anything or make any promises that are not true to how you really are though. It is better to pass on a relationship than to try and change who you really are or to go against your own values. Good Luck
2006-09-01 15:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by brendagho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am an arab and am going to give u an advice if an arab guy try to touch you and u gave him the chance to touch u sorry to tell u that but he dont love u and he will never marry u.. most of the arab like the hard woman not the eazsy one and he will think that u can give that to any one so if u really like him and u want to know the real feeling that he loves u or just want some one to sleep with.. so stay with him and dont let him touch u even ur hand you're and then if he loves u he will wait if not he will feel sick and want to find some one else..
So becarful
2006-09-02 07:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by luluu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, you could do better. So, even if it worked out, and you end up getting married, you, being Japanese, are probably used to a reasonable amount of freedom. That would be gone, particularly if you went to live in Iran; a fundamentalist state. Remember this too; they are allowed to have four wives.
2006-09-01 22:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by traveller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for any guy too easily. From what you said it sounds like he does like you, but he is unsure of himself. Give him time. Try not to get fooled, if he's just trying to use you.
2006-09-01 14:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like he is not taking your seriously. he is only taking advantage of the situation. again, it is too soon to tell. but if you already feel it in your guts that he is just playing with you and you dont like that, then get out of it as soon as you can.
2006-09-01 14:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Russ Bear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm in trying.
2006-09-02 04:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by saz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you want to eat a bomb?
2006-09-01 15:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋