I don't know how to talk to people who discuss issues based on assumptions and broken pieces of information. I don't know what to say when people start whining about their life or some other problem I don't never do that. I hate when people tell me some boring story about their life. How can I learn to talk to and be friendly with people when I all I ever hear them say is "crap crap... crap crap crap... crap.. crap and crappy crap?
2006-09-01 06:57:21 · 20 answers · asked by aaron g 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
1. You need new friends, preferrably ones who have interesting hobbies that involve group activities.
2. If you're drawing snitty people to you, they need to get lives.
3. When you are productively setting & achieving goals with other people, you are having so much fun, that you don't have time to dwell on negative thoughts.
New friends now — Good Luck!
2006-09-06 15:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you want to do all the whining ; assuming and bore others with your generalized assumptions . It's not an act of friendliness when you want to control what others say . People need to share equally in a conversation .Your entire dissertation sort of contains all the issues you say you "hate" -yet , it's OK when you do those things . If there is a particular person who does nothing but complain-move on . But ,if a friend can't be there when a friend wants to discuss a problem-then you are no friend .
2006-09-01 14:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask probing questions like "how did you come to this conclusion?" or "why do you have that opinion?" if you think a conclusion is based on a false premise or incorrect assumption. Just ask in a way that keeps information flowing instead of seeming critical. As for people telling experiences and feelings, they probably want to get to know you better, so I think that's a positive, and maybe you should try a little of that yourself. If you don't like what you're hearing, you could tell them you're uncomfortable hearing that much detail or just walk away.
2006-09-01 14:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that too untill someone told me that I had to learn to listen to other people, that was 5 years ago, now I am doing much better, the true is that we are selfish and self centered so we really dont care about other people problems, what really worked for me was trying to put myself in the other person shoes and try to get something good from other people problems.
Try it you will see that is not so bad, you will become a better person, I know I did.
2006-09-01 14:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people really over-react. I have friend who complains every day about small breasts and big butt. It is absolutely horrible to listen her boring and annoying view of herself. I never do those kind of things, on the contrary I am always trying not to talk about my private life, I don't know why I just don't like it and that is why people always think that I am arrogant and that I am not good friend because I don't want whole world to know that I think I am lets say fat, have bad hear or sth. Some things are just supposed to be private.
2006-09-01 14:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by HarMonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a problem. I guess it's the people you choose to hang out with. Also, I notice that you are complaining about how people talking about themselves and their feelings makes you feel crappy. I think crappy is some sort of feeling.
2006-09-08 20:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Siri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient my friend, there are always diamond in the rough. if you listen to all the garbage they trow at you, you might find that diamond every once in a while.
If you dismissed them all, then you might miss out on the very good advices that can save you time and money.
2006-09-07 14:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kamran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your whining right now. Are you that self centered and selfish that you don't want to hear what others have to say? If you not interested then why ask?
2006-09-01 14:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may already be friendly. If numerous people are talking about their feelings to you, then they must think you're friendly enough to confide in.
2006-09-01 14:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Conscious-X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we have them and its nice to share, are you with me on this. And give me no crap!
2006-09-08 15:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Montee P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋