Why is it so difficult to get married early in a RC Church? Wy do they make us wait 6 months before allowing us to get married. If we don't want to wait should we go and get married outside our religion?
2006-09-01 06:57:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you shouldn't. Your church obviously recognizes that the beginning of a relationship throws you in to what is called the infatuation stage of the relationship....it means there are brain chemicals and hormones going crazy all over...it also has NOTHING to do with whether or not the two of you would have a successful marriage or should even try it. Nothing will decieve you the way those pesky chemicals do, and yes I realize you are reading this and thinking about how its just not the case with the two of you but sorry it is! People should NEVER get married until they have been out of this stage for quite some time because thats when you really learn who the other is and what the rest of your life and relationship will be about, thats what will be left, and often times people find that just isn't enough.
Why do you think EVERYONE says it was soooooo great when we met then we got married and everything changed? Nothing changed except you passed out of the infatuation stage, which wasn't reality anyway. Besides if you have been together less than 6 months there is absolutely no chance that you know each other well enough to be married.
Read through the questions here..every single one of these couples believed that this was the ONE for them and that they would truly be content to spend their lives with this person. Marriage is NOT a fairy tale, its real, difficult, everyday life and the way people conduct themselves throughout that is completely different than the way they behave in the first 6 months (and more like first year) of 'dating'.
Slow down, if you are truly marriage material together you will be always and 6 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things. If you are rushing to get married there is something wrong with your thought processes, perhaps trying to be married before it wears off, but that just gets you a divorce.
Have you talked about life after the wedding (cause there is one you know)...finances, children, in laws, sex (how much and how often cause thats GOING to change too), time out with friends, negotiating responsiiblities in the house, how are you going to resolve differences...does he fight fair? do you? because there will be fights I guarantee it. There is a book by Dr. Robin Smith called Lies At the Altar which is designed to help you prepare for a marriage, not just a wedding, get it.
2006-09-01 07:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
marriage is not something to be taken lightly and the more you go through to get it, the better the understanding of what it will take to make it successful.
it is sad that people get married so many times and never get it right..
remember this, with the RC church, it's forever! it's hard to get a second marriage recognized afterwards.
2006-09-01 07:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by cliffy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Six months is no time at all. If you are planning on spending your lives together, it shouldn't be a problem to wait. I think it is good to wait, too many people rush into it and end up in a lousy marriage. Most of those weddings wouldn't happen if people were forced to wait!
2006-09-01 07:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 02:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'cos they make it so damn hard 2 divorce,they want 2 have sumthin 2 throw back in ur face if u try 2 divorce l8r..." u knew each other 4 such a long time"...
2006-09-01 07:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by BellaDonna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vote Nancy Kay best answer. She is CORRECT. I cannot even embelish on what she said. Her answer IS the reason they make you wait:
One Man
One Woman
For LIFE
2006-09-01 07:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is a rc church sounds like satin in disguise
2006-09-01 07:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So that you keep coming to mass and paying all those dues they charge you for... like the service video, the charge for the "classes" they say you must go to..... Enough said. Money!
2006-09-01 07:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by cindy s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's BS controlling crap, funny how a bunch of child molesters hold a say over what's right and wrong.
Signed
AN RC (RECOVERING CATHOLIC)
2006-09-01 07:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so that you get to know each other and also people studing you
2006-09-01 07:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by kiekie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋