2006-09-01 06:54:58 · 24 answers · asked by angel5 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Funny...you and all of the people who have answered this question act as if it's something you're ashamed of, or as if you're going to be in trouble with your parents for it.
You're 19!!! And you're engaged!!! Obviously, waiting until after you're married would be ideal, but it's not as if you're 15 and he just ran off!
Tell them as if you are excited about it! Don't treat it like a bad thing...treat it like the wonderful, amazing thing that it is! You're going to be a mother! Congratulations!!!
2006-09-01 07:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, wait until your Hormones, get settled in, after oh, about the third month... If your anything like me, when I was 18, pregnant with my oldest daughter, I didn't start showing, until my 4th, month...... Showing in an obvious way, anyway,,, and thats when my hormones were a little more balanced, enough to deal with anything, it seemed....... If your putting on weight, and have any physical changes that are questionable, than I'd tell them before they feel the need to ask, and your caught off guard.... You'd be "Surprised" how some parents, are more understanding than we give them credit for...... But, then you have those parents who have dreams, & goals set for their kids, who would be the types too, suggest an "Abortion", and thats another reason, you should wait until, you're around three months along......... Just explain, its too dangerous at this stage, and stand-up to them, and tell them, would they had done that with you??!!! Make them think, should they suggest such a thing as an abortion.... And explain to them you've already emotionally bonded with your unborn-baby.... How wonderful, your "Beau" is, and so on....... Good-Luck, to you, Hun~!! And Congratulations to you & your fiancee'!!! Smile, time will take care of itself, dont stress, its not good for the baby.....
2006-09-01 07:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to tell them in my opinion, depending on what type of relationship you have with them, have your fiance' come over for dinner. Tell your parents that you and your fiance' have something important to talk to them about and that you would like to have a moment for both of you to sit down with them to do so. Admit to your parents that you know that this was not the best way for things to have happened but that a baby is a blessing and that you and your fiance' are both happy that you had already made the decision of getting married and that this played no part in that decision. They might get mad or feel like you let them down for just a little bit, you will see that even if they last your whole pregnancy upset that as soon as they see this baby they will forget about everything. I wish you the best of luck and don't give them the news like if it was bad news because it isn't, this is going to be one of the best news that they are going to get in their entire lives even if they don't see that right now.
2006-09-01 07:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by sexy052281 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're an adult, and you're engaged. Your parents may not be thrilled at first, but they should realize that you're a big girl, and you can make your own decisions. I would sit them down one night (be prepared to spend the night at your fiance's house afterward) and say something like "Mom, Dad, I'm about a month pregnant and (insert fiance's name here) and I are going to keep it. I know this probably isn't something you wanted for me at this time, but it's done, and I'm not going to change it. I just wanted to tell you." They'll ask all kinds of questions about how do you think you're going to care for a baby, how are you going to support it, etc etc. Just be prepared for the best, and the worst. Who knows, they might be overjoyed. If not, give them time to work through their disappointment and I'm sure they'll come around. Good luck to you!!
2006-09-01 07:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them honsetly. Tell them everything up front. They may not be real thrilled at first, but they will come around. A child is a blessing. If you are honest with them, they will respect you for it. Show them that you can handle this by being mature enough to tell them now. Congrats on your and your engagement hon, everything will be just fine.
2006-09-01 07:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a couple of ways. The way I told my mom when I was pregnant. Took a test with her at the house and she knew from that. Or just start throwing up which was how we told my mother in law... Both you dont have to say much its more of doing things that they can notice.
2006-09-01 07:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by seths_hot_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with them and let them know that your preg. You are 19 years old so your not a little kid. What is the worst that can happen they might be proud that your going to have a baby. The faster that you tell them the lower your stress level is. Stress is not good for you or your baby. GOOD LUCK JUST TELL THEM AND GET IT OVER WITH.
2006-09-01 08:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i got pregnant i had just turned 18 and my way of telling my parents was point blank "I missed my period" and my mom said "well is there a chance you could be pregnant "i said "yes"so we went to the Dr. and had a pregnancy test and she called in for the results and gave me the news that I was going to be a mom!!! She did flip but she told me that me and my fiance (back then) had to step up and be responsible for our actions. You got to face reality your baby is your priorty now! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
2006-09-01 07:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by PISCES84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead girl . Tell moms & pops . You had to be a big woman to want the willy.be a big woman & tell them.They would be angry at first.Thats expected. Afterall they going love the baby.Its their grandchild.Enjoy your pregnancy and tell them quickly .You dont want too much stress right now. You want a beautiful baby. Relax.
2006-09-01 07:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Mom, Dad, I'm pregnant. Since we owe our child a pair of strong, loving, and committed parents, we're getting married now instead of later. Meet us at the court house at 2:00"
That's the only responsible thing you can do at this point. Getting pregnant at 19 while unmarried was the most irresponsible and selfish thing you could have done, but you're past that point. So now, do what's right and unselfish. Get married and provide a stable home for your child.
2006-09-01 07:02:20 · answer #10 · answered by freebird 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋