ex mother in laws?

Question

my ex mother in law has sent a rather nasty letter to my new husband, which degrades my character.... is there anythng i can do legally? or do we have to put up with this nonsense

Answer 1

There might be, that's harassment, if she keeps it up I would definitely find out what could be done.

Answer 2

Legally, you can look into a defamation of character lawsuit.. Talk to a lawyer..

However I would suggest avoiding a lawsuit if possible, have your new husband send a short strongly yet respectfully worded notarized letter in reponse telling your ex MIL never to send another letter of that sort.. Make sure to photocopy the notarized letter before sending it registered mail w/ delivery confirmation..

The notarizing and special delivery are just incase you need to use the letter in a lawsuit later.. Save the original letter she wrote and the return letter in a file and just sit on them for now... If she refrains from sending anymore letters and refrains from other attacks let it drop it's sometimes better to ignore poor rude manners and behavior than to fight them..

Also remember if you choose to start a defamation lawsuit there may be things in your past you would rather not enter public record, and in court your ex MIL's lawyer would likely drag you through the mud to prove his client had grounds to say what was said..

Answer 3

sounds like she is having a hard time letting her old arguing opponent go,you have a new love and a new life,she needs to do the same
if you didn't have difficulties with her when married to her son,maybe she is trying to stir up a bit of trouble to stay in contact,negative attention is better than no attention at all maybe she thinks you and her son never should have parted,is there a way you could talk to her and find out why she sent this type of letter,maybe she misses you,i dont know the situation so cant really say but either way you look at it,she seems to be missing your contact with her good or bad
if the letter really didn't do anyone any harm ignore it and her,if she continues,look into legal action,doesn't cost anything to call a lawyer and ask

Answer 4

Your ex mother in law is jut a very low person, with nothig better to do, legally, you have to ask an expert for legal action against her. If she sends more letters, I would send the letters back to sender, so she will now she is beign ingnored because she is not important in your life. She is not worth your time to even waste it reading stupid material like her letters.

If you answer back to her, she will feel she got-ya, and tha't's what she wants, creat uncofortness in you new marriage. Only you can stop her. Don't put up with it.

Only a very low life person would do such a thing as your x/m/inlaw.

Answer 5

You don't need to do anything legally. Hopefully our new husband understand how far a mother will go to protect their kids. Just ignore her, and eventually she will stop.

If this gets really out of hand, you can get a lawyer, and they can send her a letter asking her to not have contact with you, and you can also get a restraining order.

You should do your best to just ignore her, and throw away any new letters you get. Life is too short to let other stupid people affect our moods.

Answer 6

If you return the letter(s) unopened and do nothing more, she will stop and find someone else to harass. I have been divorced MANY years and my ex mother-in-law still send Christmas greetings, letters and birthday cards to each other. She is 90 years old and we're still friends. I'm sorry your former mother-in-law isn't so nice but ignoring her is the only way to go. Don't let her upset you and your husband.

Answer 7

You don't have to put up with it. If she's harassing you then by all means you can get a restraining order which means no contact what so ever. Or take her to court for trying to get into your life. She's you EX mother in law and she has nothing to do with your life and she shouldn't even be part of it.

Answer 8

Send her a solicitors letter, there is such a thing as an harassment order, which could be served on her if she were to persist in sending nasty letters or you could see her in court for defamation of character

Answer 9

Yes you can get a lawyer to write her a letter warning her not to do this. In UK law, if she libels you, the onus is on her to prove that what she said is true. If she can't prove it in court, you may be able to get damages from her. Speak to a lawyer. He or she may also be able to force your ex mother in law to apologise to you and make a statement retracting what she said about you. This alone will humiliate and infuriate the old bat.

Answer 10

If what she said in the letter was true, or could be proved true, then no, you have no grounds.

However, if what she wrote was not true and you can prove both that it is false, and she knew that it was false, then you have her bang for rights on a libel charge. However, in saying that, there are many defences to a defamation (libel or slander) accusation.
For example, if she was just expressing her opinion, then it would not work, as her opinion is not something "falsifiable".

Answer 11

you know what You didnt even have to open it. You couldve said Refused Return to sender If she does that again thats what you should do Forget lawyers she isnt worth the time or the money My X Mom in law doesnt even send me a christmas card and I gave her two beautiful grandchildren. People are so narrowminded sometimes...her son was so boring. Ugh..they both have the same birthday Oct 16 Ugh forget them