Me and my boyfriend have been together for 18 mos now. We are in highschool. Altho he doesn't demand to hang out often, I want to take a break and focus more in my studies. My goal this year and forward is to get at least 3.75 - 4.0 average. I don't want to fail the expectation of my parents. So, how should I tell my BF without hurting him. It will be hard for me to take it too, but I have to set my priorities. Any suggestion on how to handle this situation. Thank you.
2006-09-01 05:48:33 · 16 answers · asked by Ajie F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow, you've certainly got your head on straight, 2 kudos to you! You can begin by telling him that your grades are beginning to slip and you need to spend more time concentrating on them. Tell him that although you love him and enjoy spending time with him, you've readjusted your priorities to your education and once you've got them where you want them, then you'll be open to a relationship again, but until then, it's your grades. Tell him that you want a successful career and in order to achieve it, then you have to make sacrifices. Maybe ya'll could continue being friends and go out on dates occassionally. I hope this helps you.
Best of luck with this situation and with your future.
2006-09-01 05:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by swrong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes going to be hurt anyway if he loves u,but he also is going to think since school is started back that u either wants t be a flirt or u have met someone the summer,and if he loves u he wont have choice to understand unless he can change your mind! But iam wondering from what u said that u guys dont really go out much and he was not in your way then how is he in your way now? because i understand u dont need to get throughing off of what u trying do but it seems like been stringing him alone the all 18mts,so u no what go head break up with him u will be doing him a big favor!
2006-09-01 06:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either way his feelings maybe hurt, but soon it will be all over. Just sit him down and say "well ive been thinking alot about this and its not that i dont like you, but its time for me to focus a little more on my goals instead of my personal life, i cant disapoint my parents. So i think its time that we should take a little break from each other for a little while until the school year is over." And then he might say yeah you're right or whatever.. but theres no way on not hurting his feelings.. its just life, and we all have to face it one way or another
2006-09-01 05:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about studies, your goals and your dreams all the time that you are together. Either he will get bored and will move away or he will be a buddy and help you realize your goals.
2006-09-01 05:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to break up with him, don't. If you need to focus more time on studies.. do it together. If he doesn't want to do that let him know that you have to commit more time to your studies for yourself. If he cares about you he'll understand.
IF you are using this as an excuse to breakup with him that is wrong. If you don't want to be with him as his girlfriend any longer don't use studies as an excuse. Be honest with him.
2006-09-01 05:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be BLUNT... First off... this is going to hurt him... so expect it. But walk up to him... when you two are NOT fighting or else he wont take this seriously and tell him... Listen.. Ive been thinking alot about us, and this is NOT working. We both need to move on, we arent right for eachother. So its over. Good luck girly.
2006-09-01 05:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just confront him in the hall or when you two are alone just say that you really like him (just tell him your feelings) and say that you want to just work on your grades this year and just practicaly tell him all you told us :) Good luck
2006-09-01 05:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can say u need to lethim no how u feel up front and just explain that it has nothing to do with him or you all relationship that u just have to focus on your education first
2006-09-01 05:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by sweet s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like him dont break up its not his fault your not consentrating try your best in school and still be with him you can do enything you set your mind to
2006-09-01 06:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you told us if he care about you he will understand
2006-09-01 05:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by oneluv804 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋