What do i do about my ex wife bringing different men around my son all the time?

Answer 1

You get over it. You didn't want to be with her anymore, remember?
Why should she be alone and miserable the rest of her life?
Let me guess, you've NEVER had another woman around your son, right?

Answer 2

First you need to decide exactly what it is about the other men being around that bothers you...

You and your ex should sit down and have a talk explain why having the other men around your son bothers you... Let her know that you understand she is moving on with her life and let her know that you wish her well...

Suggest that BOTH of you refrain from beinging new partners around your son until the relationships are at least 4 months old... You could offer to spend extra time with your son so your ex has time to spend with a new boyfriend..

Remember it's not about whats best for your or her , it's about what's best for your son..

Communication is key, for the sake of your son you and your ex need to learn to communicate on a purely adult level, leaving the hurts of the past in the past where they belong, otherwise you will not be able to build the best future possible for your son..

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do about that. You can talk to her and get her to see your point about how unhealthy it is to be bringing all these different men around in front of your son and even explain what kind of example it is showing and being for him, but she has her own life and can live it as she chooses. If you find her unfit and you can prove it, then take her to court and fight for full custody of your son........... it won't change things as far as her visitation with him, but at least he won't be wittnessing it all the time like he is now. I suggest if you do this, and you win, keep in mind why you did it, and don't subject him to seeing you with different women all the time. He needs stability and to learn what real love is between two people and he doesn't need dissappointment and bad judgements......... I wouldn't introduce anyone to my child unless or until I knew for sure.......... they were the one that was going to be there and apart of our lives for the rest of our lives. Protect your child........ these days they need it more then ever.......... emotionally as well as all the rest. blessed be.

Answer 4

you let her be! if these man are not abusing your son or having sex with his mom in front of him she's DOING NOTHING WRONG. She is allowed to allow who she pleases in her home. She can have the men or women of her choice in her life even if she is dating them it's NOT HURTING you son unless they are doing drugs in front of him or fighting. Let her be live your life let her live HERS get involved ONLY if your kids safety is in DANGER. Just because she has a kid dose not mean she can't let anyone in her house that's stupid. MY EX hubby got all ruffled up about this when we split. My 21 year old brother was my roommate he did have friends over the ex was like ohhohh it's so bad 4 my daughter to have people in her house LOL that's a crock IT never hurt her she is now very popular and has great social skills all her teachers says shes a great kid. AS far as show her it's unhealthy what is unheatly about letting your kid know your friends? If the kids are introuced to the person as just friend of moms HOW THE HELL IS THE CONFUSING? even a toddler knows what a friend is if she tells the kid this is mom BOYFRIEND then next day new guy MOMS new boyfriend that would be confusing she can have as many friends as she wants.

Answer 5

There isnt anything that you can do if you and she have a civil relationship you can try sitting down with her and let her know how you feel about that especially if your child is very young but you should also let her know that you arent trying to control her life but you think that she shouldnt expose your son to a man unless shes going to get to know him first and then gradually introduce them only if she trusts the man because I understand your concerns because sexual abuse isnt just limited to girls anymore boys are being sexually abused as well and its easier for this to happen if mom gives total acess to the child because she trusts the man in her life so you are right to be concerned I read that s*xual predators who prey on children usually target single women with children.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, from experience, there isn't anything you can do. If she is bringing home men who are harmful or dangerous you can take the boy from her, but if she is just bringing them around, there isn't really anything you can do.

I went nuts when my ex moved in with a girl he had known a total of 4 months. A high school drop out, welfare mother, and moved her into the same house my kids visit. I found out the hard way, that there is nothing you can do.

My heart goes out to you. Good Luck.

Answer 7

These guys are strangers to your son -- just extra people to tell him to get his feet off the table; in whatever way they naturally would. Tell her it's confusing your son's mind. It strips the authority off his Mom & Dad; his parents. He needs it there to get consistent discipline. Or he won't progress the same getting mixed signals about what's right from wrong and the schedule flexes around the extra person she's brought into his little world. Tell her children thrive on a routine and consistent discipline and clear boundaries. Your child will turn out like any from a dysfunctional home that lacks proper essential guidelines.

Answer 8

Thats just wrong, it doesn't matter who left who, it's about your son. There probably isn't much you can do. What kind of mother would subject her kids to that? I will never let my kids meet anyone until I know it's real. Wish I could help more.

Answer 9

My brother had this same problem. Let her know that if she feels like he needs attention from, or time playing with a male rolemodel, that she should bring him to you. It will just mess him up if the men in his life are constantly changing. He'll continue to get attatched to each one just to have them taken away, and he will just learn that that is a mans role, to dissapear. Good luck man, don't let this go on, because it is definately not in your son's best interest.

Answer 10

All you can do is talk to her, tell her to respect your son. She has the right to date who she wants even if it is a different guy everynight, but she should not let your son be exposed to it untill she is ready to get serious with one guy. At least you aren't married to her anymore.