by talkin to people from pakistan, and how their ways r different to mine, i have realised how much i hve stuffed up my life, im an australian women,i now feel bad that i hve had sex with out getting married first, and be cause i hve lived with a man b 4 , now i dont think i can b forgiven at all, i cant even forgive myself, just by talking to people from pakistan, has really made me feel like crap, i need some advice please,
2006-09-01 05:46:14 · 20 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-09-01 06:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by HotInTX 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so harsh on yourself sweetie! Everyone has skeletons in their closet. They're learning experiences, and nothing more. Don't let them make you feel bad for being who you are. Listen, their culture in Pakistan is different from yours, of course, but what they believe shouldn't affect the way you view yourself. You live in a different culture, so those morals - and only those morals - should be applied, not Pakistans! Take a good look at yourself in the mirror, take a deep breath, and smile...be happy you're alive! Besides, would you listen to them for financial advice? Of course not! So why let them bring you down for who you are? You can't help being who you are, and you should never be apologetic or feel like crap because of it. Take care, and remember...SMILE!
2006-09-01 05:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by youdontneedtoknowme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply: You can't take what "people from Pakistan" have said and only apply that to your life. Everyone has different views, so if you are relying on advice from people, you need to talk to a variety of people, not just those from one country. Pakistan is an Islamic country, so you were most likely talking to Muslims. They have very strict beliefs in premarital sex and the like, so unless you are Muslim, their view doesn't necessarily apply to you. You also have to remember that they grew up believing and practicing their beliefs, so you can't blame yourself for things that you have done in your past, just work on improving your future behavior. The bottom line is, you really can't take what one group of people say and apply it to yourself; the circumstances are very different (unless you grew up in Pakistan). Also, you need to talk to a variety of people. Find someone from Latin America, and from Asia, and Europe, and every other continent out there, and you will get a different answer from all of them.
2006-09-01 05:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel crap or bad, but you can torn it to success by keeping yourself for the man that will marry, I tell you already that forgiveness is on the way, just pray for God to forgive you and He will. But on your own part stop having sex with men until you get married.
Jesus Christ Love you and that is what He want you to do.
2006-09-01 05:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by www.tonizek.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the state of one's hymen would not make or destroy her solid character. That being reported.... isn't the factor of religion and different sources of "solid values" to help adults pass previous performing like toddlers? Any fool - heck, any 3 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous - might properly be completely self based. The urge to be the main needed and the main powerful individual around might desire to be gently pushed out of toddlers; that's called transforming into up. intercourse is an entire 'nother ball of wax. that's not "solid" or "undesirable" intrinsically, nonetheless that's the two a very non secular act or an act which degrades the spirit. yet excitement might desire to be tempered with taking good care of others. it fairly is what makes us adults, no longer toddlers.
2016-11-06 05:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's people from Pakistan who are the cause of your problems. You can be forgiven and have a happy and beautiful life. Just make good choices and take responsibility for the bad ones. Move forward.
2006-09-01 05:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They're just a bunch of chauvinistic pigs who need to have their balls cut off. See these guys HATE women so much that when they get horny they'll do another man to avoid being near a woman. That's how much they HATE women. Get over it they're just trying to make you feel bad and obviously have done so. There is NOTHING that cannot be forgiven. All you have to do is ask.
-Duo
2006-09-01 05:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Duo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I forgive you. Nearly anyone would. You need to forgive yourself. Just because someone's from some foreign country, that doesn't mean they're any kind of authority on your life, or on anything else. Did you think it meant that? If you think so, then you'd better be careful & don't go talking to any eskimos or Samoan headhunters - there's no telling what they might think of you and you might end up feeling even worse. My advice is that you'd better stay away from foreigners altogether.
2006-09-01 05:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by yahoohoo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
REPENT to GOD , The One and Only(The Creator of Universe)He who created me and you, seek ,ask forgiveness , He will surely Forgive you only if ya don't do this big sin again,and submitts ya wills to him He said that He is "THE MOST MIGHTY AND MERCIFUL" ,"WISE AND ALKNOWING" HE KNOWS WHATS IN YA HEART, and fight against all ya Evil desires,and believe in the last day, and do what is right, seek the truth God will surely guide you.May God Bless You. Ameen (Peace and mercy of Allah(swt) be upon you.
GOD SAID "HE DON'T FORGIVE SHRIK(COMPARING ANY ONE BESIDE HIM) AND CAN FORGIVE ANY SINS OF ANYONE WHOM HE LIKE.
2006-09-01 07:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by afrasiyab k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey all those things dont mean you stuffed up your life, dont feel bad, think of them as learning curves. We've all made silly mistakes and have some things which we wished we could have done better, but dont regret anything youve done in your life as its made you who you are now, and i expect your a very lovely person. just live and learn!
2006-09-01 05:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by sashlou 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋