you are ready to go through a divorce WITHOUT regrets?
(Let's just say you are the one who initiated the divorce when you cant live with a liar and a cheater anymore. However your partner seeks forgiveness, acknowledged his/her mistakes and willing to show and mend his/her ways.)
2006-09-01 05:45:20 · 22 answers · asked by DiL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
assuming that you have tried to work through your differences with your spouse without any progress,you are probably ready for divorce when it hurts more to stay ,than to leave.
2006-09-07 16:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by stoneripple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just know trust me. Yes it is grand that they want forgiveness, but in my situation I did take him back and he did it again a year later. It was already hard enough to take him back because of the whole trust issue and he swore on his kids life he would never do it again, and he did so I left and filed for divorce. Maybe counseling might help the two of you. Maybe he is willing to make it better it is a chance only you can take. A decision only you will be able to make. I understand how you feel I was there find comfort in your faith and Good luck with whatever you decide sweetie it will be a tough road no matter which one you take!lol
2006-09-01 12:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by daack7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually you have to go through a 3 year separation before the divorce is finalised, right? Use that 3 years to think if you've done the right thing. If you still feel adamant after the 3 years of separation's up, then you haven't regretted, I guess.
But if your partner really improves during the 3 year separation, then give him another chance.
2006-09-01 12:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get divorced and be done with it. That person has really missed up. Because it is hard to back the cycle of be a liar and a cheater.
The no regrets is that you done your part. You were very honest and very faithful.
2006-09-01 12:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A doctor should never walk out on a live patient. Be sure this marriage is dead before you leave. However, do not subject yourself to undue punishment. Let the spouse know that this behaver is not acceptable. If they love you they will not continue to to this to you.
This is one question that only you can answer. There are not enough real details to form an educated opinion.
But, do what is right for you. Because if you don't no one else will.
2006-09-08 00:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but with any huge life change you will have SOME regrets when you look back over your life at some point...........by your wording I think you might be more than a little afraid of what else is out there for you but TRUST me anything has to be better than the bs you are living with right now, I saw in one of the replies that it takes 3 years to get divorced hmmmmmmm usually 6 months or less these days I think BUT so what..........get the divorce, sort out YOURSELF 1st and then if he is still trying for a 2nd chance then you can on YOUR terms, heck you can always get married again, but hun I really think he has had his chance with you and totally blew it, move on with just a few regrets or lots of them just MOVE ON................take care
2006-09-06 23:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless if you dont love him anymore, then you can call him a cheater/liar..
If you still do love him, then give him some benefit of doubt..
Anyway, since you can ask this question, i belief that you are still not ready for a divorce.
So please dont divorce k... i know you still love him, but you're just kinda tired of all his bull sh it...
Try to think of some other ideas to resolve this matter of yours..
2006-09-03 20:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love him? Can you forgive him? Is he willing to show you that he means business. My ex said all of these things, but he was still getting booty calls. Obvioulsly he didn't really want to change. Sit down with him & really talk about what you need in order to learn to trust him again. My marriage was not so lucky. Yours might be, but you have to work at it. Good luck.
2006-09-05 22:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must be careful to let your head speak not your heart. If it is possible for him to satisfy you doubts totally then maybe it is worht a chance. If you will always be suspsious then you may never be happy. Lastly maybe you can give it a little more time to see if with counseling you could determine the cause of his issues and if they could be fixed.
2006-09-01 13:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by mark g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just tell. If it feel right to not be cheated on and lied to - go through with the divorce, and don't look back.
If you miss the cheating and the lies - take him back into your life.
2006-09-01 12:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋