We are currrently living with my husband's parents and seem to be having problems. We have a 4-month old boy and as you read the title have not done anything. No privacy nothing! Always seems to be about making his family -mom, dad, nieces, and nephews happy and then me. Of course he is very caring and loving but now-we are married and have been for 8 months and sex -maybe 2 times since we have been married. It bothers me as each day I work and have a long drive to and from work, then stress b/c I have school as well and little time to see my son. My husband doesn't feel that this is much of an issue-but he should think twice. I just feel that it's the same thing each day-come home at his parents house, set my stuff down, kiss and give my husband a hug, hold baby for 10 - 15 minutes-dinner time, interuptions from other people living in the house,....It completely doesn't phase him & now that I bring this up-he says that we can go somewhere with baby. -Again no privacy for just us
2006-09-01 05:39:28 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Crawl into whatever cave you have to, but you absolutely must get out of that house.
2006-09-01 05:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are in this same situation right now. We are living with my family temporarily because we moved from NM and needed a place to stay until we could find an apartment or something here. I understand how awful it is. I have an 11 month old baby and she seems to get everyone worked up all the time when she screams and cries. It is finally coming to an end though. I think we are going to have an apartment within the next month. With the sex thing, we just try to do it at night when the baby is sleeping. Trying to be quiet and not wake her. Get in the floor if the bed is noisy. You can always find a way! Are you guys even trying to find a place to live? I hope you are because living with family is hell!!
2006-09-01 05:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing to do is take each other out on a date without the kid. Rent a motel room for the night. and bang away. Then make plans as to how you will separate from the family.
Find a house near your job and move. Buy a house, build your own lives.
Living with parents is hard enough as a single, once you are married you should be out .. he needs to grow up. There is an issue, HIS family. and It's getting in the way of the marriage,. Give him the choice, WE move, our "I" (you and your son) move.
2006-09-01 06:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married and have a child knowing you would have to live with his family? You need your own place. Things will never improve until this happens. Of course he is comfortable, he is still at home! Nothing has really changed for him! My husband never lets me go 3 days without sex let alone 3 months!
2006-09-01 05:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need a vacation with him someday. If not soon, just something for you to look forward to.
A weekend alone at a cabin or anywhere private.
Just sit down, set a date that you both agree on and you can get someone to watch your baby for those couple of days.
Don't let it get to the point where it gets to be like my friend after 5 years and having 2 kids has not been on a holiday with her husband.
2006-09-01 05:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main problem is that your living with his parents you want privacy you need to move out, have the parents come over once and a while to help out with the baby but you dont need to be living with them
2006-09-01 05:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is overwhelmed. His life has changed alot in a short time...new wife, new child, new responsibilities. Living with his parents just compounds things as there is probably still lingering stress of living up to "their" standards.
I suggest finding a way to get out of his parents house. A new family needs to develop on its own.
2006-09-01 05:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by ADF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I just looked at all your questions and boy do you have a plate full.
You need to make some time for yourself. Then maybe your hubby and then you baby. But you need a break for sure.
Talk to you husband and explain word for word what you need. Not let him say what your meaning. Tell him exactly what you need. Men are slow most of the time.
Explain explain and demand.
Good luck
2006-09-01 06:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading the comments - hot mom had the best in which you need a night out, but instead imposing on the in-laws hire a baby sitter and go out on the town get acquainted again. Have fun.
2006-09-01 05:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I feel your pain.....I haven't had sex in over 4 years (but I'm just an old fart)!
What you and hubby need is a night out together.....no interruptions. If his parents can't or won't watch the boy for you, hire a sitter. Sounds like you two need some 'quality' time.
2006-09-01 05:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that day car centers do offer overnight and weekend baby sitting!!
Look into it..You should of said what city and state you live in...I would find one for you.
I was in the same boat. No one in the house wanted to baby sit and I had no friends willing either. No help.
There are services that can help. Take advantage of it and save your sanity!
2006-09-01 05:42:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋