I met a man who wears a pair of pierced earrings and I fell in love with him. I'm not sure whether he is gay(or bisexual) or not. But I heard from a friend of mine that a man wearing earrings was gay or bisexual in America. I'm not familiar with such informations. Is he gay or bisexual? If so, can he be interested in women? Should I give up?
Please tell me your honest answer.
2006-09-01 05:35:04 · 24 answers · asked by Kazue N 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I can't speak for anyone else but I like to tell you a little about me OK? I'm 41 years old and yes I'm Bi and I been married for 20 years and been with her even longer so to answer your question; Yes Bi men can love women in fact I put her feelings ahead of mine but with that said I still have a really hard time keeping my other feelings in check and as I get older it's not any easier. If I was you I would talk to him and see how he feels about you and take it from there.
PS. I have 3 earrings in the left ear but that's not a big thing anymore, everyone wears them so you can't tell by the earrings..
I wish you the best with your friend :)
2006-09-01 06:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Super 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the earrings mean -- different men use them in different ways. I remember in the 1980s, supposedly a man was straight if the earring was in his left ear, and gay if the earring was in his right ear. Or maybe I have the meanings reversed? Gosh, I'm starting to sound like an old fossil! LOL
Anyway, as for your other question, a man who is bisexual is absolutely capable of loving a woman in a romantic way. Being bi, that means he is attracted to women AND men. He might be attracted to them equally, or he might prefer one gender a little more than the other. But YES, you definitely stand a chance of him feeling romantic love and sexual attraction for you.
However, if he is truly gay/homosexual, then NO, you do not stand a chance. If he's gay, he only has feelings of romantic love and sexual attraction for men.
At least that's how I've always understood it. :)
2006-09-01 05:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by scary shari 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just going by the earrings is not enough. Try getting to know the man a little and if you still don't know, just ask. The worse that usually happens is a strong "NO!" You might just step back out of arms reach in case you have a really homophobic dude there.
The definition of "bi-sexual" is that a person likes both the same and opposite sex and is willing to have sex with either gender.
If you want an exclusive relationship with a bi-sexual person this has to be worked out after you get to know them a bit. From my experience, bi means there is some choice in the partner. A bi-sexual woman I used to know chose to remain exclusive in a hetero marriage because she loved her husband and did not want to complicate things. A lilfestyle lesbian (18 years in the life) I knew once chose to take on male partners and eventually married a man at 57 years old. I don't know of any 100% gay males that could actually change, but who knows? Certainly it has not worked for religious and shame reasons.
This may be different for different people becaue "straight" "gay" "bi-sexual" are very subjective and relative terms. Somebody could be 20% gay and 80% straight or vice versa. There could be a difference between the actual genitalia and the preferrence/orientation/ and gender of the person, especially in the case of what they used to call "gender dysphoric disorder" (like a case of a woman living inside the body of a man-- sometimes a sex change is in order).
It is all very complicated. Kind of like humans are.
Good luck.
Oh, one more thing. A good friend I used to have that was 100% gay tried to love one woman he fell in love with. No sexual feelings whatsoever, even though he wanted to have them because he loved this lady so much.
2006-09-01 06:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jack P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Earings aren't an indicator. One earing might be if it's in the right ear. That usually means that that person is gay. If their bisexual then yes they can fall in love with women. That's what bisexual means. They go both ways.
2006-09-01 07:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Gay men can technically love women, but women are not what they are attracted to. Bisexual means he digs either the guys or the gals, though it's not usually a 50/50 thing.
2) As a general rule, earrings mean nothing.
so...you need to ASK him. OMGZ like NO WAYZ. I know. Toughie. Good luck.
2006-09-01 05:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by patterslaur 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These days alot of guys where earrings, that doesn't mean he's gay or Bi. You will be able to know if he likes you. And when you find out that he does like you, then just ask.. If he is Bi this will give him an opportunity to explain himself to you. Then you can decide if you want to continue the relationship. If he is Bi then this is what my expierience has been. My exboyfriend cheated on me with his ex-wife. What a mess he was Bi-sexual but told me he would be true only to me. That was a lie. It must me hard for Bi-sexuals to be in a relationship, at least it was for him becuase he wanted to have his cake and eat it too.
2006-09-01 08:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by IM THE GAY GOD ALL FEAR ME 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wearing earrings in America does not mean you are gay. A lot of straight and gay guys wear earrings, If you like this person "go for it."
2006-09-01 06:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by animalloverinbama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone wears an earing doesn't make them gay. It has to be on a certain ear...right or left...i just can't remember which one.
It is true that he may have an interest in women.
If you are gay, then u just do men.
If you are bi (bi-sexual) then you are attracted to both.
I hope this helped
2006-09-01 05:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Orange ♥Mocha♥ Frappuccino 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend does not keep up with the times. A lot of guys wear ear rings now days who are straight as an arrow. I say go for it
2006-09-01 05:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
earring wearing is an antiquated way of being able to tell if someone is gay, and there is no jewelry that I know of for bi's!! Listen, if you're IN LOVE with this guy why don't you just ask him. It sounds like you're infatuated, because if you were in love you'd know him well enough to know if he liked men or women. Just ask!!!
2006-09-01 08:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by libraesque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋