I am really fed up with men!! Let me tell you guys something... I am a beauitful light skin puerto rican women I have One child I work for the government and I attend a New York State Unversity I am very well maintained but this is my question...Why is it that all the men that I have been involved with seens to treat very, very bad ,mean ,selfish and cold and it's everyone that I've known. Can someone give me some advice in how to choose a Nice Educated Desent man??? HELP, HELP
2006-09-01 05:11:57 · 22 answers · asked by Gianna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im not college education but I own my own business. Look in different places or email me :)
2006-09-01 05:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop right there! Your working your mo-joe on the wrong men! Don't give in on the first second or third date Baby! Make the man you want to be with take you out at least seven times without any funny business and don't let him know he has to take you out seven times to get in your pants. Only the man who truly wants to be with you will stick around. The others will probably call you a b**** or a dike or some other crude terminology. Guess what? When they do that look how much trouble you saved yourself. Be good to you Baby.
2006-09-01 12:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Nice Educated Desent man is a man who is satisfied with his carieer, and feels that he has done everything that he could do in his field, although he didn't throw away all ambitions. I know, men seem more selfish to us, well educated with career women,
they always make things to be as if they are more important then us: who are we, women with "flyaway mind" to do something else (and do it well, better then them!) other than keeping children? So a Nice Educated Desent man is a helping, devoted and who appriciates you in every way.
2006-09-01 12:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Wintermute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sometimes you have to date some creeps before you find your prince charming!!
Also, do you allow these men to treat you badly? You have to be confident 7 strong enough to say "NO" and walk away!!
Its very hard to find a decent caring man! But don't give up!
Also, go for men that you have a common interest with or meet them through a friend, then you might have a good idea on what he looks like!
Keep your chin up & realize that threr is a good man out there for you!!
Good luck!!
2006-09-01 12:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by redirishactress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your race should not be a issue...all women deserve to be treated in a gentle way. if this is something that runs in all your relationships, then your the common factor and you need to start looking for a different type of man. do this by the following:
1. change the usual place you meet men
2. start to look for a man around the college, if you find someone a little older, chances are he is trying to improve himself and would be a good find
3. don't pre-judge a man because he is not your usual physical specimen you've dated in the past
good luck!!
2006-09-01 12:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you have a very low opinion of men and that is effecting the kind of man tht is drawn towards you.
I would suggest you try and change your view and try to hold men in higher asteem they may start to think then that you hold yourself in higher asteem.
You might find it starting to make a difference.
You could try not to place so much emhpasis on your looks and work on getting a better personality
In my view again Peace has made a strong point.
2006-09-01 12:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by malcolmg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like YOU'RE choosing the wrong men. Is your self esteem low, or do you not think that you could do better? Sounds like you need to up your standards.
Ps- What does your being Puerto Rican have to do with anything???
2006-09-01 12:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one since u just described most men... i feel u, but u need to be patient, choose wisely and never give ur all until u know he's the one....
always let them know up front what u want and what ur not going to tolerate if u see u and this guy getting serious and if what he wants is not the same thing then move on.. dont' waist time on them because there r men out there that r good men.....
good luck..
2006-09-01 12:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice, sure, not all men are that way honey, try moveing to different location where the real men are. The ones who know how to treat a pretty woman like yourself.
2006-09-01 12:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by kekeke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to attract what you want. Not all men are like the ones you describe. Perhaps it's where you hang out? Try a tennis club, or literary venue.
Sorry you're having such luck. Perhaps think about raising your kid and dating when he's older.
2006-09-01 12:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Saffire♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My name is Israel am a Certified Executive Chef, I also teach as well . I've never really been out another latino because they always looked at me differently , you my father rised us to be american frist and to educate us . I often felt latin women never liked be because I wasn't a thug. You know what to do ?
2006-09-01 12:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by Israel G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋