Ok so my best friend is really great, and we have an awesome relationship. i have just recently realized/admited to my feelings for him. i dont know what i should do. i really dont want to do anything that could ruin our friendship, and i am one of those ppl that has a really problem taking the first step. should i just see if i can wait this crush out? this isnt a new thing for me... two years ago i feel for another really good friend and just recently got over him... so this could go on for awhile...
2006-09-01 05:10:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I find myself in the same boat. I think what you need to figure out is simply, how important is this friendship to you? can you live without him as a friend? because telling him, 'i'm in love with you,' could either make him run away, or stay awhile. just step back and watch all the things he does. Does he give you the indication that he may be interested in you? If so, bring up gently, "lately, I've been noticing some things, that leads me to believe this can go farther. Am i reading you right?"
2006-09-01 05:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer85282 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my best friend and we have the most complete relationship anyone can imagine. We met in college and hit it off right away (we were inseparable), but never thought about dating each other (we actually tried to set each other up with friends), until almost 2 years later when friends started telling us that we were crazy not to see what was right in front of us. We've known each other almost 15 years and have been married for almost 8, and we have a 5 year old daughter. Things couldn't be more perfect. If you think he feels the same way, I wouldn't waste any time. Being your best friend, he wouldn't do anything to hurt your feelings.
2006-09-01 12:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by sabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think u can either try to wait this out and then get hurt if he start talking to another girl and doesn't even know u lie him or talk to him and ask him whats the best thing that u both can do about the situation. If he's your best friend you should be able to talk to him let him know how u feel and just pretend your talking to him about someone else but your really talking to him about himself. Good luck!!
2006-09-01 12:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lu-Lu - hopelessly romantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make a move. coming from someone who's got a lot of experience in that kind of situation, it is NOT a good thing to do!! just like your other crush, wait it out until you get over him. this could end really bad and then you'll really regret it. i hope you make the right choice! Good luck!!
2006-09-01 12:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by jgmice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly cannot tell you what to do. i am also in that situation but they say that when you are friends with someone for a long time and you get to like them more that it builds a stronger relationship because you took the time to get to know them.
P.S. i took the first step and now we are together.
2006-09-01 12:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by katz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him or ask him if he can feel anything more for you and then you at least know where you stand. If he doesnt and youre in love then seeing him isnt really good for you. It prolongs the pain..
2006-09-01 12:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out how he fells about it! This happened to me before and we ended up dating. I am glad I took the first step! It was great!
2006-09-01 12:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by hellen_sal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop ruining your friendships... Or if something makes you move on with this... then be upfront to yourself... You could possibly MOST LIKELY lose this friendship.. So prepare yourself to NOT have him as a friend anymore.
2006-09-01 12:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to see how he feels about you. Feel him out to see if he may feel the same way about you. You can tell him how you feel, you gotta be honest with him. Good luck....if he doesn't then just stat friends...
2006-09-01 12:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by dancer1883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT make a move. Try finding out if he likes anyone. if he does, well, you know he doesn't have the same feelings as you.
2006-09-01 14:45:58 · answer #10 · answered by yourstruley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋