I think its over, but she don't think so. She loves me nad I don't want to hurt her.
What should I do?
How can I make her not to love me ?
2006-09-01 05:09:37 · 27 answers · asked by Iraj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hook up with the guy next door...
2006-09-01 05:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon™ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oy vay. TELL her that you don't love her. Don't cheat, don't play games, don't leave an e-mail or voice mail. Call her up or meet her, and say "Listen. You are a great girl, but I just don't feel the same way as I used to. I'm not going to hold you back from finding a man that will love you like you deserve. I will always treasure our time together, but I can't tell you that I love you. Thank you for being there when I needed you". Then let the questions begin. And tell her how great she is, even if it's a lie in your book. Don't trample her with horrible thought about how she didn't please you.
2006-09-01 12:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She will love or hate reguardless of what you do or say.......But I've been in a situation like that before and the best thing to do is try to be friendly, yet not too close to one another in a relationship sense. So distance yourself to the position where you'd feel like you were talking to a male friend. Try not to hug or anything that would send her the wrong messages but just talk about how you feel, it will be much easier than just flat out having her see you with someone else or a stab in the back like that.
2006-09-01 12:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her up front. If she doesn't take no for an answer, get a restraining order, because stalking and harassment is against the law.
Only you are responsible for your own happiness and you are responsible for your own actions. You cannot control another person. Set boundaries and stick to them. There is nothing you can do to stop her from loving you. But you can have your own independence and not be around someone if you so choose.
2006-09-01 12:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt do anything to repel her. Just be honest. Thats the best thing. Sit her down and talk to her, tell her whats on your mind and break it off subtly. Making her hate you for no reason could hurt her self esteem. Now, if you don't hate her guts, do you really wanna do that to her?
2006-09-01 12:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all what you mean u think it's over.you don't sound sure.But if you know for sure that it's over,let her know that you two can no longer be together.
To be honest it's not easy to stop ppl from loving you.n point a is u should think of it as thou she still cares for u.jus try lettin her kno that it's time that u 2 move on theres no point in the relationship no more cause u don't want to be with her.
2006-09-01 12:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make her NOT love you. that is something she is going to have to get over on her own in her own time. if it's really over for you than cut it off and be done with it. it may seem mean at the time, but seriously, it's worse to keep seeing her if your not into the relationship anymore. don't lead her to believe something is there if it really isn't. she's going to hurt, there is no getting around that, so be up front and as kind as possible.
2006-09-01 12:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by bubblz135 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be firm and ask her point blank: Why she loves you so much. Tell her you are not ready for love and you are too young to be really serious about love.
Tell her you like her a lot, but love is really not for you yet.
She cannot argue with that and it may cool her down a bit and start her thinking about it.
2006-09-01 12:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the same thing you just told us. That should do it. You can't make her not love you. She will be hurt. There is no way around it. But she will be fine, you will be fine, and you'll both get over it.
2006-09-01 12:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by M K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and straightforward. Yes it will hurt her, but at least you'll know that you didn't led her on and play childish games. Treat people the way you'd want to be treated.
2006-09-01 12:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by virgogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its very simple. be a freaking jerk! but if you don't wanna hurt her feelings then don't answer her calls or respond to e-mails. not in a mean way, just insist you're busy or something. she'll get pissed, trust me.
g-d, i can't beleive i'm helping you out with this. my guy did this exact thing to ME!!! feel special that i'm giving youadvice. at least now you know that i know it'll work.
2006-09-01 12:20:04 · answer #11 · answered by jgmice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋