I have a 1 yearold abd a 3 mos old. His sister was preemie so they are 9 mos apart. When his little sister was born she was in the hospital for a long time so I had to go to the hospital every day to see her, of course. When she got out of the hospital she had to go to the ER for vomiting incessantly which resulted in her having surgery on her stomach so I stayed with her then while he stayed with his father at home. Just last month she was back in the hospital for two weeks and I stayed with her when she had Group B strep and he stayed with his father. It just seems he cries about everyhing, and they both get the same amount of attention and love..and I let him know that he is still also my baby. He cries when I make her a bottle even if I give him one..he cries if I'm holding her and he cries if just the littlest thing, even a toy, frustrates him. It is more of a loud ear piercing scream than a cry. I don't know what to do. I love on him all the time.
2006-09-01 05:03:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It is one thing to have a new baby in the house that is taking up mommy's time, but it is more than that in your situation cause new baby is taking mommy away period. It sounds like you are having a tough time with your new little one and she is takinging your sons mommy away cause you are the one at the hospital all these times with her. So your son sees it more like its not just mommys attention that is gone....this new thing is taking my mommy away where i dont get to be with her all the time no more. It is not your fault or the baby's obviously and it is hard to reason with a 1 year old who feels like they have lost their mommy, the one who has been by his side day and night for the last year. Maybe try the next time your baby needs to be in the hospital, maybe try to have daddy at the hospital while you spend the time with your son so he sees that your not being taking away all the time, and have him help out with what he can with the baby...have him pass you the diapers and the wipes when changing and stuff like that. I dont envy you at all, this has got to be the hardest situation to go through, constant reassurance and an active part in the baby daily needs, and maybe every day if possible, have daddy take the full role for the baby for a few hours and you and your son have stricktly mommy and son time.
I hope this may help you even a little, and God bless you.
Best of luck
2006-09-01 05:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by kim s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it seems as if they get the same amount of attention and love, but you have to remember that your son spent nine months in your belly connected to you twenty four hours a day. His daddy is probably everything that a daddy should be, but that baby knows you more than anyone else in the world and he's definitely going to go through withdrawal when you're not around for the first year or two or even three. Just try your best. The only thing you can do is keep trying. Are you sure you don't have a colicky baby?
2006-09-01 05:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by sunshinegirlieo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try letting your husband tend the 3 month old while you and your 1 year old son go to the park and feed the ducks, go to the mall and ride those silly 50cent rides or just spend some *alone* time with him. He needs your attention on him for a little while during the day without his little sister around to distract you.
And I wouldn't call it jealously at all he is only 1 and cant commprehend why his mommy isn't giving him *all* the attention anymore.
I can only imagine what he is going through with his mommy having to be at the hospital all the time. As sick as your daughter gets and the amount of attention she is getting makes it that much harder on him b/c he is only 1 and cannot understand what is going on. They are both *babies* and need lots and lots of mommys one on one attention.
Good Luck and God Bless you with the days/weeks/months to come.
2006-09-01 05:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by tigreria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was the only child and he got all your attention. I have a 18 month old and a 3 month old. Avery cried everytime I did anything with Ryan. If I held her she cried and threw a fit. I just let her and when I would get Ryan down for a nap, I went and played with Avery. Avery now helps me with Ryan, holding her bottle, throwing her diaper away,she gives her hugs and kisses. It's great. Don't worry your son will see that that is his sister and will love her. He just thinks he has lost you attention and someone else has gotten it. It's hard for a 1 year old to know that you still love him, just the baby needs you more than he does right now. He will come around and realize that sister isn't going anywhere and he is just going to get use to it. Congrats, and hang in there. He will come around!!
2006-09-01 06:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 13 months apart they are now 9 and 8 When i brought my son home I had my daughter help my with everything to do with her baby brother I think he become mor fussy because he feell that all yur time is with hs sister i think if you make it a point to do stuff with just him at least once a weeek i dont tink that it wont be so bab make him feel as if you need is help with stuff make him fell like your helper and then when he does help praise him and say thank you give his money to get what ever he whats because he help you that and make sure that you dont give the baby any of his toys
2006-09-01 05:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by fit_tech04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little kids feel neglected even ifyou stop payying attentiojn to them for jsut a moment. even if you are giving them both the same amount of love and im sure you do he still harbors feelings that ehs not the baby anymore and you are going to love the new baby more. You should try explaining to him that you love him and her equally. Also it seems that hes been spending more time with his father because of the new baby mabe you should try sp;ending some alone time with him to show him you still care. When my mom brough home my baby brothers she said i was jealous and went back to dipers even though i was already 2 and potty trained... it was a call for more attention.
2006-09-01 05:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by lana89xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 year old and a 2month old and although my 3 year old loves her sister we have been going through the same thing it is jealousey. what i have done and it is workin pretty good is have daddy watch the baby and have a day at the park just you and your son or even just do something with your son that he would like to do. they just get used to being the only child and dont understand why they have to share mommy's attention so they crie because they know we will respond to it.
2006-09-03 16:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by kltorres81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 05:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try switching, have dad take care of her for awhile and you have some alone time with him.
It is tough!!!
My mom always reminds me of when she brought me home my older brother (2 years older) told mom.... take her back. With time and quality time alone with him he got more tolerant of me.
2006-09-01 05:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by cam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just jealous of the attention she is getting--and time taken away from him.He will--eventually --get used to it.
Best wishes:)
2006-09-01 05:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋