2006-09-01 05:02:09 · 9 answers · asked by just curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen, if you are getting married to the right person you will be having sexual encounters throughout the entire marriage. Now, why are you getting married? Do you sincerelly love this person? If you do you would not even wish to have sex with others! You will still find the opposite sex attractive but you will not have any desire to have sex with them. It is natural to find beautifull people attractive. Some paintings are beautifull too but would you have sex with a painting? No, I didn't think so. You may think comparing a painting to an attractive person silly, but it really isn't. just because you (hopefully) would never have sex with a painting it is a parable. Something used as an example.
When you find the right person, and you are properly mature, emotionally healthy, you do not need to have sex with anyone but your spouse. Also, sexual activities are only a part of marriage, and while it is important it is not the most important aspec of marriage. Nurturing the marriage, deepening the bond with your spouse over the years, finding your spouse is your best friend, the most important person in your life, caring for each other with tenderness, consideration, devotion, and honoring each other, these are the important things in a marriage.
If you want you can get sex without getting married. While I think we should wait to we marry to have sex, many have sex prior to marriage. You don't get married just so you can have sex. That is not a good reason to marry somebody. You get married because you love that person romantically, this person is your best friend, the one who loves you as you love her. The one you marry is the mother of your children, your helpmeet, your soulmate, whom you cleve unto and become one with. All these things and more is what marriage is about. Can you picture yourself growing old with this woman? Can you picture her large with your child, created in love? Can you picture life without her and if so how does it look? Do you wish to spend your life with this woman? If not, if all you want is sex, if you don't respect, honor, cherich her, don't get married.
Marriage is beautifull, the love between two who love romantically is beautifull. I love to see older couples who are obviouslly deeply devoted to each other, with a deep and abiding love that grew ever deeper over the years of joy and hardship which they shared together and somehow got through it all and are still together. Do you think they had sex with others prior to marriage just because they were not sure if they could only have sex with one person for the rest of their lives? I doubt it very much.
I am not sure you are grown up enough,, mature enough, to get married. If you are worried about only having sex with your wife and nobody else, and are thinking of cheating on her, dishonoring her, prior to your marriage, do her a favor and break off with her. She will be very injured at first, but in a year or so she will see you for the shallow, immature, and selfish person you sound like and be gratefull you broke up with her and saved her from an unhappy and eventually broken marriage. By then she will have fallen in love with a man who will treat her as she deserves, will honor her, cherish her, and not think of cheating on her prior to marriage with her. A man who will want her happiness and not think of having sex with any other woman but her. A man who will not see sex as the most important feature of marriage, who understands that one day sex will be physically impossible, but whom will still love and cherish his bride. She will be with a man who thinks of her as he saw her on their wedding day, will see that person always, and not see the wrinkles, sagging skin, and grey hair. She will always be as vibrant and shinny as the day she took him to husband and cherished him as he cherishes her.
If you can't give her these things she deserves then you should not marry her. Be fair to her, treat her with kindness and leave her. Allow her to find a man who truly loves her and not just the idea of sex.
I am not trying to be mean, just honest with you. I really don't think you are mature enough for marriage. Perhaps one day you will be and will remember these words. Marriage needs nurturing and your spouse deserves to be the most important person in your life, one you would not dream of dishonoring, or deceiving or betraying. I truly wish you happiness. Have a nice day.
2006-09-01 09:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Serenity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I demand sex before i get married because I need to see and feel what I will be subjected to for the rest of my life... I love sex, besides making money Sex is the next best thing, and i am telling you from a woman point of view that you have to give me the business before we tie the knot.... My man has to be able to please me in all areas in order for me to marry him... I need to know how he liC*(&*(*it.... I need to know how he stick it.... Just like I am sure that he wants to know how I ride and put it down... Woman feel the same way MEN do.... You just have to find the right bold woman to tell you the truth.... No one gets married these days without testing the water... and if you write on here and say you did or you will... YOU ARE LYING..... Test it out.. because if it wack after you get married we have anoter failed marriage because you will become a cheater....
2006-09-01 12:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a good thing to have sex before, during or after marriage.
2006-09-01 12:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes why not its out their so go for it.you all ways get parents saying to there children don't have sex before you get wed, well that's a lot of ****.thy did not do as they was told from their parents so why should their children listen to them.I'm in my late 50s and disabled and i have 17 kid .i did not tell them not to have sex before thy get wed all i said to them is be very careful out their as their is some twats in this world
2006-09-01 12:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you dont get sex after marriage you dont need to be getting married.
2006-09-01 12:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol that is funny .... ummm if you are with the right person you will be having sex all the time .... and it just gets better and better...so that is just a myth....maybe just a dry patch or you are with the wrong person maybe ....
2006-09-01 12:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by fantasia91273 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not true...it's the person you are with...not whether you are married or not...if your other half is attracted to you, that's all that matters.
2006-09-01 12:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by canada grl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married!
2006-09-01 12:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sez who?!??????!!!!! You must be talking to the wrong married couples.
2006-09-01 12:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by friendlyshoulder 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋