i'm a filipina who live here in japan.i met my husband last 1999.we got married 2001.he help me to have my visa.i came back to japan year2002.he's a carpenter until may 2005.then they(with his friend)open a night club.june 2005.that was the time our relationship become rough.i understand him about going to other bar.and clubs.till one day i went to manila and came back here and my friend told me that he bought or buy a korean girl.we argued and he so sorry but to forgive is easy,to forget is not isnt?because i love him i forgave him but now its another story he falls in love(i think)to a GRO.i gave him 100%love.but for him its not enough.it really hurts.i cry all night.i didnt know what to do.i want to commit suicide but because i afraid to GOD i loose my fighting spirit to do it.were still living together but not the same thats why its very hard.i still love him but hes telling to everybody our stance.and im always the bad one.
2006-09-01 04:56:43 · 22 answers · asked by jesse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You said the main thing that counts, YOU believe in God, who will with prayers help you get a better life with or without your husband who's not being faithful to you. Don't give up on yourself because your faith will carry you thru your hardships & pain. Your husband will pay for his unfaithfulness in time, and you won't have anything to do with it. Don't confront him any more and he'll wonder why you are so calm about the situation. All you need to know is that things will work out with God's help. Wish you luck!!!
2006-09-01 10:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must be a very hard thing to go through. Whatever you do though, don't take your own life, why should you give up living a wonderful life in the future because your husband is a jerk who can't appreciate you. If on top of all his cheating he's going around telling everyone about your marriage problems, then he is definitely not someone you need in your life. I do not doubt that you love him and that it is very painful now, but, if you look around on Yahoo Answers you will find the stories of many women who started over and found wonderful people to settle down with second, or even third time around. Don't waste any more time on this man, and although it may be hard, don't let what society feels is right dictate what you do. Divorce is not the end of the world. He doesn't deserve your love. I wish you luck.
2006-09-01 05:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me if I am assuming wrong, but OK, you love this guy, but he is also the reason you have your visa to be in Japan. He is treating you badly. You can either go ahead and get a divorce and probably return to Manila or you can just stay married, let him do as he will and you start looking for another man as well. This is a bad situation. I am sorry it is happening to you.
2006-09-01 05:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his divorce, take him for everything he has and then find someone who truly cares about and only loves you. This man does not deserve you, he deserves exactly what he paid for in the new girl. Just keep reminding yourself of that....he had to pay for her. That is not love honey. I also wouldn't worry about what he is saying to everyone else, actions speak louder than words. And if a guy has to buy a woman, it speaks volumes about his character...none of it good.
I'm not sure what the divorce proceedings are in your country, but in the US, it's just about 50/50 everywhere, meaning you get half. I wish you well.
2006-09-01 05:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone he cheated on you and give him the divorce but on the grounds of adultery.then get on with your life.You dont need a guy like him and i think you deserve better than him,please dont think another minute of suicide as it doesnt make anyone any better off.yopur family lose a great daughter and your good for nothing husband gets to be called a widower instead of a cheat and a liar.
2006-09-01 08:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by BUBBLES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he tells everyone your the bad one. Hes being an idiot and putting the blame on you.
DONT YOU DARE consider suicide. Your giving him too much power over you. Nobody deserves to be treated with so little respect. Hes walking all over you because you are allowing it. Stand up for yourself, get your life together, get a job and move on.
2006-09-01 05:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him because it sounds like neither of you are happy together. If he has cheated on you once that you know about he will do it again or probably already has. you can move on without him and make it fine in the USA or wherever you want to live. Life is short so do not waste it being unhappy.
2006-09-01 05:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by stormy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then you need to get rid of him i mean its obvious why you got married but now its time to stand up for yourself and be your own women, why do women think they need a man to complete the the hell with them the more you respect yourself the more you will be respected so dont you think its about time you left this guy who clearly isnt interested in you and make a life of your own and find someone that truly loves you?
2006-09-01 05:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he doesn't deserve you. Don't you see, he keeps doing it again. There is "plenty of fish in the sea". I'm sure you will find someone who appreciate you and never think about suicide. Is he worth it to commit suicide??????
2006-09-01 05:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by seabiscuit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is time to see a marriage counselor and an attorney. And not necessarily in that order.
2006-09-01 05:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Papa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋