I have a dad in jail, a sister moving away with my mom I just met. and that sister is preganet!I just met my mom. I always thought I have to listen to my sister and she has made bad choices. she has been in jail, shes pregenat, and shes on probation! I live with my aunt. my sister always makes bad choices and she bosses me around all the time!!!!!!! she even smokes weed with the baby in her stomach! she never made one good choice before. can someone give me good advice to listen to myself and my thoughts and dreams rather than to listen to her? someone please give me good advice.??!!..
2006-09-01 04:45:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
unless you want your life to end up like hers listen to her otherwise follow your own heart,it sounds like you know what to do your just struggling because she is family,you have to look at the facts and even though she is family doesn't mean she will give you the best advice,break free and do what you know is best for you not what someone else wants
2006-09-01 04:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to school and get an education. Think about each of your choices before you do something. Don't break the law. Don't have sex until you are married or if you do have sex before marriage, make sure you take precautions. Don't use drugs. Work hard at any job you get, even ones that don't seem important. If you develop a reputation of being a hard worker, you will always get a good recommendation from your ex-boss when you try to get another job. Take care of yourself physically by not eating too much junk food and exercising. Drive safely and don't speed or talk on your cell phone while driving. Get involved in your community in a positive way either through a local church or another community charity. Take showers and keep yourself clean. Take care of your teeth, its the only set you'll ever have.
Ok, I've tried to give all the motherly advice my mom gave me growing up all in one answer. Most importantly, if you see something in people around you that you don't like then try not to act that way but if you see someone who is doing everything right, get close to that person and try to emulate that person.
2006-09-01 11:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Gwen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can give you good advice, from my own experience. I was brought up by alcoholics and very bad situations. I now have a family and am in school to become an RN. It took me a long time to sort everything in my own head. The first thing you need to do is to learn to just shake your head and say "yes, thanks for the advice" from others. Everyone has an opinion on the way you should think and act, but only one persons opinion matters, YOURS! Let it go in one ear and out the other, and thank them. that should get them off your back. Then decide what you want to do with your life. Become a housewife.... become a nurse (great pay/job security), Become a scientist. Don't think any job is too hard to obtain. Take your time and find out about many jobs. You can do this in the library or employment office or online (my personal favorite) then go for it. There is alot of money out there in the way of grants that will not only pay for your schools tuition and books, but also for life too (rent, food, toiletries, etc) You can do anything! Once you start in school, it will give you strength and direction and most importantly courage and self worth! Good luck and HAVE FUN!
2006-09-01 12:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by nurse betty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your 18 or older start thing of an exit plan and get away from those people, you dont need to be there, if your under 18 and have to put up with it, just consider the source (your sister) she's a fool and has serious issues, none of which you don't have this would be the time to suck it up and do what you have to do to seperate yourself from that life, and heres a very important piece of advice make your choices and think with your head never and i mean never think or listen to your heart it will do you in every time, i know its hard but take control of your life be smart and you will be ok,,,
2006-09-01 11:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by brandonsgix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life we are surrounded by people we may love, but that may not be good for us to have a relationship with.
You sound like a very intelligent young person, one who already knows the difference between right and wrong.
Instead of seeing your family members as examples, use their actions as examples of how NOT to live. You can see that the things they are doing are not good, therefore, take those lessons and apply them to your life.
You can be or do anything you want by making the right choices. Stay in school, stay away from sex and drugs and be the one person out of your family that you and others can be proud of.
2006-09-01 11:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Beetlehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing what a hard time ur having, dont listen to your sister, you have already seen what her decisions have done for her!!
Get an education, it will take u a long way
I was homeless at 14 but a belief in myself helped me rise above it, I have now done very well for myself
But i did it on my own
U will be suprised what u can achieve if u just have faith in ur own self. Dont let other people tell u how to live ur life.
Make plans and then constructive ways of achieving them
good luck sweetie
2006-09-01 12:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it you plan on staying and living with your aunt.? And sounds like you do have some common sense for what direction you want your life to go.. I would sit down talk to your aunt about this that you have posted here...And not worry about the life choices your sister is making,, that is her choice. and only she can make them and have regrets later... You have choices to make for your life and only you can make them .. You cannot control her nor can she control you in the choices that each of you make. This is where values and ethics. morals that were instilled in you come into play.
Good luck.
2006-09-01 11:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay in school and get a good education! if you don't want to be like your family, then you are not obligated! you and only you are the one who has the power to change your life, and it is up to you to make good decisions. look into the military if it interests you at all, it gets you away from bad situations and makes you a better person. but only do that if you are interested, it's not for everyone. your best bet is to decide on a career goal, and STICK TO IT! do not let your family's mistakes become yours, instead, learn from them and dont' make the same ones!
2006-09-01 11:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its you that has to survive. your family cannot survive for you. my advice would be life is all about choices some are easy some are hard but you have to make 1 decision only at a time ie, you can choose to take drugs OR you can choose to play an online game like that. you were born with a brain use it
2006-09-01 11:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by luckydo6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going to school. get into extra-curricular activities. anything to keep you occupied. eventually if you make good grades and good choices you will be able to go to college- there are tons of scholarships out there if you don't have the money- and break the cycle that they have begun. rise above the problems. consentrate on being the strong, intelligent person you know you are. set goals and don't let them drag you down.
2006-09-01 11:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by ashley f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋