2006-09-01 04:44:05 · 27 answers · asked by shawtyp0000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband got used to me cleaning(which is something I enjoy) and little by little he started to quit cleaning up after himself. So I was always asking him to but he knew I would eventually do it if he kept putting it off. So 1 day I just stopped! I didn't clean anything for about a week. I got takeout and used paper plates so dishes wouldn't pile up. I didn't wash cloths. I did clean the toilet everyday though(that's just something I am compulsive about). Well about day five when he started running out of clean underwear he got the hint. Men are just like big kids. You have to keep telling them over and over!
2006-09-01 04:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by hebe935 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you talked to him about it and he has made no effort to change, then one thing would be to just let his mess sit until he does clean it up. If he says anything tell him you didn't make the mess. If all else fails, you married him then I guess u just have to clean it up. Decide if you want a messy husband or no husband.
If I had the chance to clean up after my husband again, I would welcome the chance. Be glad you have a husband that loves you. Messy or not you have someone to spend the nights with
2006-09-01 04:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his stuff exactly where it is and just clean up after yourself. It'll drive you nuts until he gets the point, but if you start cleaning up after him, you've just become the "mom" in the relationship. If he doesn't start to get it, then clean it up, but throw it all away, no matter what it is. This way he gets the idea that if he leaves it lay around, it's going in trash, and unless he wants to go dumpster diving to find it, he'll put it away. And if that don't work, move his lazy butt into the garage!
2006-09-01 04:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try letting him live with himself for awhile.... go on vacation to your mother's for a couple of weeks or a month.
Long enough for him to figure out HE is making a mess and there is no one else there to clean it.
If you come home and the house is trashed.... go back on vacation.
Tell him you'll come back after he cleans up HIS mess.
Just a thought.
Or you could keep doing everything and just stop washing his underwear and then when he asks you where they are ask him, "I don't know, when is the last time you washed some?"
2006-09-01 04:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no more $ex. If he is too tired to clean up after himself then he must be to tired for intimacy. That probably sounds a little harsh, best thing to do is just leave it there and he will know where to find it when he needs it. If it is laundry well tell him if he doesn't take it out it doesn't get washed, he will soon get sick of living in his own sty.,
2006-09-01 04:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on strike ! lol
onhestly i would stop cleaning up after him myself , when he has no clean dish to eat or drink out of , maybe hell get the hint !
im guilty of pampering my guy , cleaning up after him , washing his clothes , ect. but im an old fashioned girl ...
even with that being said theres a limit ! when he starts to take the things i do for him from the kindness of my heart for granted , and exspects me to , like its my job to do these things ,, its a whole new ball game !
some times they just have to be reminded of this ! lol
2006-09-01 04:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pammie, you have a few questions on here. Sounds like your very unhappy in the state your living in and it is affecting the rest of your life and your marriage. Some husbands just don't pick up after themselves. Best thing to do is to leave his stuff where he layed it. The more you pick up after him the less he will pick up after himself.
2006-09-01 05:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, I think we may have the same husband.hahaha I have been married for 10 yrs, and discovered if I just leave his crap where he throws it, he will eventually get tired of looking at it, and pick it up himself. I have too many children to pick up after a manchild too.
2006-09-01 04:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by spidermonkeyfingers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, ask him if his arms are broken. Then tell him you are NOT his maid or his mother and that he's old enough to clean up after his own messes. (You could also confine him to one room so he can mess it up anyway he wants!)
2006-09-01 04:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Forceof1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
won't be able to coz their brains are not "under pressure" for self cleansing! To them, it fairly is much less complicated to anticipate us to do each and every thing! they have discovered to be dependant on us so as that they have got been given lazy 1000's of years in the past and time hasn't replaced! ha-ha. those "genes" have been given exceeded on contained in the direction of the years! :-D Your question is the terrific!
2016-11-23 17:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋