ok i babysit a lot & on one of my families i babysit the mom is a Christian and very nice but the dad isn't and is a little rougher....anyways, i was babysitting the 8-year-old and we were listening to her new "barbie" cd and she suddenly asks if i'm her friend....i say "of course" then she tells me "if i tell you this....will you not tell my mom?" i didn't know what to say but i nodded "yes" so she told me her dad let her play "grand theft auto" while her mom was at work!!!!(her dad has a night job) i was shocked when she went into details about how she killed people and crashed cars! but then she told me it was a secret and begged me not to tell her mom......their family isn't very secure & i don't want to mess up their marriage......what should i do?
2006-09-01 04:35:24 · 10 answers · asked by tots 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
well, i think you should tell her mother, but twist it around alittle. Have you acually saw her playing that game. if yes bring it up in a conversation. if no, then ask if it's ok if she plays that game and them tell her in confidence what the 8 year old girl told you. She's a Christain so she'd understand where you were coming from.
If you don't do this now, who knows what the outcome of that little gilr will be
2006-09-01 05:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by jade101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to mind your own business and not get involved since all this has to do with is a video game. Unless she played "Grand Theft Auto" in the presence of YOU, and you were told that she couldn't I wouldn't worry about it. I doubt that you are going to "mess up their marriage" with your information anyhow, I wouldn't discount the fact that the mother knows that she does it anyhow.
I would suggest getting the CHILD to tell her mother what's going on.
Can I make a suggestion that when you post to this question/answer board that you summarize what you are going to ask in your Subject header. HELP!! doesn't tell anyone anything. Try saying something like. "I babysit and I have a problem I need help with". Again, just a suggestion.
2006-09-01 11:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by CactusFlower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say nothing, the situation is trivial. It is not as if the child was being harmed or placed in any danger. Perhaps the child was trying to trick you into letting her play the video game.
Put things in perspective, at the end of the day you are just making money and working. It is not your place to get involved in the domestic dealings of your employers (and no good reason exists in this case why you should).
Don't let the kid play the game if you think it will upset the mother.
2006-09-01 11:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Rather Notsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to leave it go. He is the child's parent and he has some right to decide what she does. If mom didn't trust him, he wouldn't be home with her while mom is at work. I wouldn't let my child of that age play that game and neither would his father but he would let him watch someone else play. I don't love that idea but he's not me. Maybe mom knows about the lax rules about that stuff and has agreed to disagree. I don't think its anything that you should get involved in. If it continues to be uncomfortable for you, you could stop babysitting for them. If you babysit alot, and its that important to you, you don't really need the money that badly. My opinion is that its none of your business, tho.
2006-09-01 11:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by hbennett76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not an issue for a babysitter to get involved in! Just be sure that you do nothing that violates the mother's house rules, and let it go. I agree that 8 yrs old is too young for such a violent vidoe game, but, frankly, it's not OUR call. It's the parents, and if her father allows it, you have no say.
2006-09-01 11:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Randi L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell you will loose the child's trust. Do tell the child that GTA is just a game and that she did not really kill anyone. Explain how hurting others is wrong. Let her know that you find GTA a stupid game. If she trust you enough to tell you a secret she will respect your opinion and point of views.
2006-09-01 11:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your own business. Really that is what you should do. Don't buy into all this crap that rap music and violent video games turn kids into killers. We used to play cops and robbers growing up where we were "blowing each other away" 100 times a day and none of us turned into killers. If the child's father wants to let his kid play the game apparently it's because the kid is old enough to separate reality from fantasy.
2006-09-01 11:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the child confidded in you and for you to tell on her would break the trust she has in you... dont say any thing as this might be a good way for this child to confide in you at a later time with a serious problem.
2006-09-01 11:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT a thing! There is no sign that violent video games played by children "make" them violent adults. Rather, it is a person's moral upbringing that make them violent or non-violent as adults.
2006-09-01 11:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough, talk to your mom.She will know what to do, tell her the child told you in confidence.
2006-09-01 11:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by need2knw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋