would you feel cheated if?

Question

You knew that you had high intelligence, but everyone for years believed you were retarded for years because of one incident where you had an emotional breakdown. Then, later you were tested higher in aptitude than every other kid in your grade?

If your only parent died, and you were completely alone, and wanted to find a companion in college, but everyone perceived you were desperate so they steered clear?

Would this make you feel like you've been cheated in life? What would be your reaction if these things had happened to you?

To Eric I:
Really? Everything happens for a good reason? The Jewish Holocost? AIDS? Hurricane Katrina?The World Trade Center?

Answer 1

Henry Ford said it best :
"Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger , even tho sometimes it is hard to realize this .For the world was built to develope character , and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching forward ."
I am a firm believer in" what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger" .

Answer 2

All things in life always happen for a "good" reason, even though we can't always figure out at the time what "good" could come about from it. It isn't until the future, that we realize [and some people never do realize it], if things had not happen exactly as they did, they would not have made room for the blessings we now have.

In the future, if things are not so good in our life at the moment, there is a tendency to fantasize about a better now, had the past been different, but one must always remember that fantasy is always greater than reality, and thus it is likely it would not have been better... only different. We might like our life to be different at that time in the future, but once again, everything always happens for a good reason in life, and so, this too will pass.

Answer 3

Well to be honest if all that had happened then I wouldd expect that the person who endured it came out a stronger person, although they woul most certainly be more fragile then most and an underlying fear of further negative aspects would raise a caution flag, but if I felt that life had cheated me then I would certainly be angry. I have endured very similar situations and i can honestly say that life can bring you down but you are the only one who can grab on to it and ride the roller coaster called life. Life is an adventure, live it, love it, because it will be over all too soon. Enjoy!

Answer 4

Sounds like that person has had a tough break, and it would be hard for me to say what I would've done had I been that person. But one thing I can say is that this person probably is destined for personal greatness and achievement if he refuses to allow himself to feel "cheated". Sooner or later, like my great grandmother used to say, every pot finds its lid. That person will eventually meet a good companion. To get a friend, you gotta be a friend. It's scary to think that we might end up lonely and uncared for. If in the event, no one at school wants to be your friend, I'd suggest volunteering at a nursing home or some place where there are people who feel lonely and rejected. There a person may find a friend and mentor who will guide them and change their life for the better. Never give up HOPE. As long as a person has Hope and his health, he has everything!

Answer 5

It takes a long time...more than a few incidents... to establish a good reputation, but only one to ruin it. If these things happened to me, I might feel bad, but I would keep on being whoever I was and not fight it or try to prove something otherwise. The preponderance of the evidence will eventually establish the truth about me...good or bad. When you make a mistake, people will always talk and jump to conclusions. But time will eventually prove them...and you... right or wrong...as well as who your friends are.

Answer 6

First off, I would seek counceling, if I had such issues to deal with and couldnt sort them out for myself.

Second. No one "owes" you anything. What you make in this life, is what you are putting forth in effort to do so. You are in charge of your own destiny, and if you choose to dwell on substances such as these in the past, then you will not live for the future or present.

You dont have to be "desperate", but, an easy going person is the best way to be, because people are naturally attracted to these types of individual. Develope an attitude of "can do" and participate in activities, and organizations where you will meet people and get out of your shell, so that you concentrate on other people's needs and not your own, then you will be better off for it, and more socially accepted.

If you feel "cheated" in life, then you had better "get over it" and start to live and forget the past. Its hindering you and clogging up your social calendar with absolutely nothing but stagnant air, and your not getting anyone close enough to breathe it.

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 7

Well its easy to feel angry,resentment,and yes maybe even cheated. Sometimes we get wrapped up in the negative things,but we need to release the unpleasant things in the past and look forward to our future. Always remember we CAN overcome anything as long as that is truely what we want.

Answer 8

Fight everything you feel is incorrect by ignoring it. Be nice and polite, but also firm and without trying to please anybody. On long term this attitude might bring majority's respect. And with respect you get everything else.

Answer 9

Life sucks... get over it and move on. Don't dwell on the negative or the rest of your life will suck too.