I've got several friends who I now know are bisexual....I even caught my roomie looking at some weird stuff on craigslist. Has this ever happend to you and did it change your comfort level around this person??
2006-09-01 04:25:27 · 17 answers · asked by Z. 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I remember when I "came out" as bisexual in the eighth grade [some time ago... ha ha]. I must have been so unbelievably terrified of my girlfriends never wanting anything to do with me again. I knew I couldn't deny myself the right to be happy any longer - even if it hurt. Turns out my friends were very supportive.
You shouldn't be weirded out because your friends should have enough respect for you to not hit on you or werid you out by doing sexual things around you, ask or request that they don't if you feel it might help. Aslo, they should have enough respect to not try and make you do anything you don't want to do.
Strait, gay, bi.. we can all get along if we respect each other. Respect is the ultimate key.
2006-09-01 05:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♡ everyone hates monday ♡ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a little ambivalent on this topic. Your question made me think. Finding out a friend is bisexual would change my perception of them just because I can't quite relate to it. On the other hand, I enjoy being friends with a variety of people of varying personalities and sexual preferences. Truth be told, I am more comfortable being friends with people of the same sexual orientation, meaning hetrosexual. So, if I am to be more honest than PC, I'd have to answer that yes, it makes me uncomfortable. I find it an unknown territory. As long as we can maintain boundaries and I don't feel threatened (hit on), I imagine we'd still get along fine, but I do think it would be uncomfortable.
2006-09-05 06:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend for several years before she revealed to me that she had bisexual tendencies and had even at times fantasized about making out with me. Actually, even though I am strictly heterosexual, I was kind of flattered because I know she is typically very picky about who she is attracted to. This was several years ago and we are still friends to this day. For the record, she knows I am not bi, so she has never tried to hit on me and I know she never will because we have respect for each other in our friendship. So no, I'm not bothered by this at all because it still doesn't change the person she is, and that person has always been a good friend to me.
On the other hand, I have been hit on by several different women I met over the years starting when I was in high school, but not once did it make me view them any differently. I just let them know where I stood on that (which was "thanks, but no thanks") and they all respected me enough to let it go.
Frankly, I think my open-minded, non-judgmental aura is one of the things that seems to attract these types of people to me, because I also get hit on a lot by men of various ethnicities that are not the same as mine.
2006-09-01 11:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by YouDon'tKnowMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several friends, as a matter of fact. And my sister. Finding out was never really that weird in the first place, but now it has ceased to be weird altogether. As for my comfort level? Hasn't affected me in the slightest.
2006-09-01 11:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Qchan05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I did. It wasn't so much that she was bi, it was that she told me she wanted to have sex with me that bothered me. Kind of like " ok so you aren't really friends with me for friendship, you want more" which is kind of what it was. I am sure it's not the case in every situation. I guess it does bring up questions ilke " in the dressing room at the store , where you looking at how the dress looks on me or just checking out my boobs... ya know? It can often lead to misinterpretation of actions, i.e. hugging.
I guess it just depends on how comfortable you are with homo\bisexuality in the first place.
I guess the best thing to do is just suck it up and ask. "are you thinking about 'it' with me or are we past that? just be honest. You were successfully friends BEFORE you found out, remember that.
I hope I helped-
Madeleine.
2006-09-01 11:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Madeleine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but they were female. Wasn't a problem for me since they never approached me about doing a threesome (and I'm one of the few males on the planet who is NOT interested in even trying that). Don't be surprised if it changes your comfort level, but don't hold it against them either. Try to treat them the same way you have always treated them. If one of them propositions you, just be polite but firm and tell them you're not interested.
2006-09-01 11:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out one was a bisexual. It was weird. It made me feel uncomfortable. Then she moved away. haven't seen her in a couple of years.
2006-09-01 11:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Cara Arlene 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no, bisexual friends - check - weirded out, no! I'm a fag after all =-.-=! (Why would bisexuality even minutely freak me out)
2006-09-02 02:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Pluke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew when I met my friends that they were bisexual. They are still good people and I trust them. Thats what matters to me.
2006-09-01 11:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I did find out that a couple were actually gay, my comfort level increased because I found myself wanting to protect their feelings from getting hurt, I love them, and want them to be happy too
2006-09-01 12:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by fifi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋