2006-09-01 04:19:46 · 6 answers · asked by Aarti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you still love your husband, you should forget about man #2. He is not going to be there forever. Part of his attraction to you is the fact that you are married. He will probably disappear after you get a divorce anyway.
He's only in it for the action that you are giving him. He doesnt feel tied down and doesnt have to answer to you. I think what you are feeling is lust not love.
Just because the grass looks greener, doesnt mean it is. I have been there and done that. The grass is the same color once you get close up.
Nobody can make this decision for you, its all on you. But take if from somebody who has been on both sides of that fence. It's not worth jumping over.
If you still love your husband, and I have a feeling that you do, you should do everything in your power to keep your marriage together. That means, you have to let man #2 go. You can't focus on your marriage if you are thinking about someone else.
Trust me, with the way the world is today, you are better off staying with your husband than having an affair and regretting it for the rest of your life. It takes two people to make a marriage work, if you are not giving your all because you are "in love" with another man, then your marriage has no chance.
If your husband loves you, you should try to make it work. Love doesnt come that easy these days.
2006-09-01 04:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by babyblue9199 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How come? What was not working in your marriage?? Were you too alone? I don't think that it would be right to break the marriage at the beginning but I think it will be very honest to talk with your husband and tell him what's going on to you.. After a right talk with him you can think what to do with your marriage.. take some time to understand the reasons of this love affair.. and of course what the other man is looking for and if he is in love with you..
and if you will decide that your happiness will be with other man well go on.. and make projects with him an move steps.. in that direction.. If you will discover that it was just an adventure to give salz to your marriage you will back to yr husband, ask forgive and excuse but tell him that now you are sure that he is the only one you can love.. and you had just a confused moment..
Good luck
2006-09-01 11:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by tufty2310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, falling in love w/someone else will not solve the problems in your marriage. it will add to it. if you want to save the marraige, get marital counseling and do not have an affair. have some self respect. if you are done, get a divorce, don't be surprised if your new man falls from your graces. the grass is not greener on the other side. Be careful what you wish for---you might just get it!
2006-09-01 11:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made vows with your husband. You better be ready to move mountains before dissolving a marriage - the consequences are for the rest of your life & your kids if you have them.
2006-09-01 11:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont dissolve your marriage ,it is not a solution at all . talk with ur husband in open mind . try to find out problems and then go for solutions too .dont invite 3rd person .it only increases problem and frustration .
good luck my dear
2006-09-01 11:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by kajol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dear try to settel with ur husband.if possible tell him evrything.i mean about the new relationship.if u leave ur husband and get marry to an other man it could be happen again.dont u think so?
all thr best
2006-09-01 11:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by omraojann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋