My husband used to be all over me and in a sexual way and I would complain that I just want him to hug me or hold me or just give me a kiss, not make out with me everytime he touches me. So now he totally doesn't even touch me (except during sex). I ask him why and he says "that's what you told me to do." The thing is I am 9 months pregnant and it actually hurts my feelings. What should I do? by the way, he constantly tells me I'm hot, even during my pregnancy but yet he doesn't show it.
2006-09-01 04:18:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband is the same way. i made some comment like years ago and he always brimgs it up when i am like "why dont you cuddle with me?" guys are such babies. explain to him that you love the attention he USED to give you. and you didnt mean you wanted him to stop. you just want it to be hugs sometimes. NOT a big make out session. whats the problem with that, right??
2006-09-01 04:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look your husband either shows you his affection his way or not the way you want. He has his way of doing this and if it is not his way he doesn't know how to act.
By the way he was with you shows this man loves you. Is a making out really that bad. Think about it. You know showing great affection in front of children has been been proved to be very good for them. Teaches them about love and closeness.
You need to really tell him what you want or show him when he walks by. Men need instruction to understand your needs. He is not going to get it unless you show him.
I would say it is time for you to start with hugging him and kissing him without making out like you don't want.
Go for it he will learn and he will not feel he was rejected as he feels now.
2006-09-01 05:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him that you're female and pregnant and your hormones are all whacked out. (i'm not pregnant but i always use the "i'm female- i don't know what i want" speech when i realize I may have been too blunt about what i want) Just explain to him that you want/need to be held... just not always leading to sex. And he sounds like a sweetie. Perhaps it's not that he doesn't WANT to hold you, but he might just be so in love with you that he can't HELP but WANT sex when he holds you/touches you. Now jr. gets all excited and has no where to go. I had to compromise with my guy.... I get cuddling AFTER sex, but if I'm not in the mood for sex, I can't get mad if he doesn't cuddle. (Our relationship isn't all about sex... but he was getting frustrated from getting blue balls and i was getting frustrated from him wanting to do it when all i wanted was to cuddle.) Try not to take it personally, and b.t.w. congratulatins on your baby! Best of wishes.
2006-09-01 04:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hate to say this, but be careful what you wish for. Your husband is doing exactly what you told him to do and if you want it to change, tell him that you miss his affection. Tell him that you may have over reacted before and you are second guessing what you told him. If he asks questions...tell him you are simply a hormonal woman who's allowed to change her mind. Jokingly of course. Some men are just like this and they need directions. Be straight with your direction. Simply say I miss it when you do ______, or I don't like it when you do ______. If he's a literal guy, tell him literally what you want, he's only trying to make you happy.
2006-09-01 04:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 02:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your hormones are going a bit crazy! Sounds like you have a loving husband. You need to open up to him, in a loving way and express your needs. Also, if you just want him to hold you, put yourself next to him and hold him, he won't reject you. They say "give what you want" be the example to show him it is ok.
2006-09-01 04:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same most times. You see, men ask, women make the decision whether to give or not to give. To open up or not to do so. So when you meet a man who takes your word for it, it means he has enourmous respect for you. So, when you are ready for him to do more than he is currently doing, just say so to him, and you can even start things moving. You want him to hold you??? hold him!!! You want him to cuddle you??? cuddle him!!! Action will always speak louder than words, and it is same even after marriage.
2006-09-01 04:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by SmartAlec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep I think its hormones too! He knows this and is probably doesn't know what to do! Just tell him you do want him to be lovey on you but if he is being lovey and you snap at him not to take it personal! Congrats on the new addition
2006-09-01 04:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by hebe935 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At nine months pregnant you are not in control of your body or emotions. Just hang in there.
2006-09-01 10:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A typical female. ...I want a man who loves me and does things with me and caresses me, blah, blah, blah.
Why can't my man give me room, why does he always have to touch me blah, blah, blah.
My man doesn't touch me anymore, he doesn't caress me, he doesn't show me affection except when we make love.
You're damn fortunate that he isn't touching, caressing and showing affection to someone who would appreciate it.
2006-09-01 04:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Juble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋