so this is like a long story, but to put it in short terms, i was with this guy for 2 years, engaged, and happy. he went overseas due to the military, and hes been there for 6 months. We were together the whole time hes been there, then he tells me he dont want to be with me nemore. This was about 3 weeks ago, now since that has happened, hes been talken to me, weve been emailing back and forth, and he called me a few times, and ive called him a few times, were pretty much talkin about wats up with eachother. Now were tellin eachother we love eachother, but when i ask him am i just wasting my time with us, or is there a future he doesnt answer me. Im thinking i should just get away from him, but its hard. I dont know what to do.
2006-09-01 04:13:11 · 16 answers · asked by love_chicky63 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hate to be the one to break it to you but let him go if he comes back to you, he is yours, if he doesn't then he never was.
2006-09-01 04:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Special 'K' 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like I'm going through something similar. Been with my ex for almost 2 years and was engaged and she got stationed overseas. Then after awhile said she loved me but now it's different. Same thing about bringing up the future. You just got to look at it like you are a maybe to him. Just like I am. As a maybe, I'm not going to make decisions based off of her anymore. If my ex wants to really be with me she knows what she needs to do but I don't count on that happening. Same thing with yours. He was engaged to you and knows that he can be married to you and be together for sure. But he isn't sure. Then again if he's out here in Iraq it may be a little different. I'm here now and it's different from being stationed other places. I plan on making my own decisions for my own life and if she does try and come back to me later it may be too late but I think it's better to do that then to wait around on a maybe.
2006-09-01 19:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by billy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like he already broke the engagement. So I would take the ring off and start acting like a single woman. It just seems like he's leaving you in limbo. No one likes to hang there. Otherwise he would answer you straight up about your relationship. There could be other underlying reasons for him to think this way. Maybe he feels as though there might be a chance he might not be coming back and doesn't want you to carry that burden or get hurt. I guess if it's that hard for you maybe you should tell him exactly how you feel and go from there.
2006-09-01 11:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this story sounds all to familiar to me. I was married to a marine who did a tour in Japan. And he did the same thing to me. And needless to say he was cheating on me with a girl over there. I divorced him so he has probably done something he is guilty of. See if you can get him to be honest if he can't be honest then you don't need to be with him. My x lied to me about what took place granted I did my homework and found out everything before I questioned him. And when he lied about it on top of the cheating I said peace out.
2006-09-01 11:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give it time, him being over there is surly difficult and he may be freaking out. Or he may have met a female soldier over there or civilian woman. Keep talking and see what happens. 3 weeks is a little soon to give up on a two year relationship. Peace to your sole.
2006-09-01 11:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have your answer when he doesn't answer. Cut it off completely with this guy, he is playing games with your heart. Don't waste your time with men like that, they only bring trouble. Respect yourself, don't be desperate and take it slow with people. What's the rush? Concentrate on you, go to school, advance in your job, take care of you and be good to yourself. That way, people will be good to you too.
2006-09-01 11:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to find out why this sudden change of heart with him. Is it possible he did something while overseas that he feels guilty about? Once you know why, then you'll know whether you're wasting your time or if he's worth it.
2006-09-01 11:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if he was in a combat zone so I ill give you two answers.
Combat zone: He's seen so many of his buddys killed or wounded he has a death expectation and doesn't want commitments.
Non combat zone: He's is or was with another woman and is embarrassed about it. His guilt is messing with his mind.
How much longer is his tour of duty over seas? If he's with another woman, she is trying to get him to marry her so she can immigrate. These are things to consider.
Vaya con DIOS
2006-09-01 11:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probly thought its best for you .so you can have someone there with you at all times and now that you are still talkin hes happy cause he knows you still love him
2006-09-01 11:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by ~*The Show Must Go On*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being jerked around you chump! Sh*t or get off the pot. Of course...if you like being played the fool (and some folks do) then disregard the advice and continue.
2006-09-01 11:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are in love then don,t confused go ahead without any fear about the future,if you are thinking about future then you are not lover but it's a policy of buisnessman
2006-09-01 11:22:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋