What do you do when you want something so bad, but it's so wrong? What do you do when you regret the choices you've made in the past, and there is not turning back? They say ,"So you've made your bed now sleep in it." It's taking every thing in me to stay in it. I think to myself what would it be like to step out of it just for a little while. Only in my dreams. That will have to be enough, because in reality I never will. Why wont it go away? I try to ignore it, but it only grows stronger. I try to deny it, but it stairs me in the face. It has a grip on my soul, and it's roots run deep. I've tried to set myself free, but it bares down on me like armor on a knight. It's who I am, and I can't change it. No matter how hard I try or how "normal" I pretend to be. I hide it because I'm afraid. Afraid that others may know. Afraid of ridicull and hate. Afraid of hurting the ones who love me. Is it better to live a lie, or to rip out loved one's hearts to live in pure truth. Would that be too selfish? To want to live a happy life.
2006-09-01 03:52:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
#1 rule...dont ever assume anything...
confront the spouse, there may be a completely legit, logical answer....if not, maybe that person will actually open up to you on exactly what is bothering them...the worse thing you can do is go off on wild assumptions, no matter how it looks to you....the spouse will instantly become defensive, and nobody will end up satisfied with the results.
2006-09-01 03:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first off when was it written? It could be from a long time ago. Secondly where did you find it - laying around or in a journal or some place private.
And lastly - I would really worry - and I would eventaully confront him and ask what might be wrong. From what I read I have to assume something is wrong.
2006-09-01 04:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your spouse needs your support. The note mentions fear in several ways. It's now your job to alleviate those fears. No matter how you discovered this note, you now know how much trouble your spouse is in. There is depression and deceit. You don't want your spouse to live like that, I'm sure. So now, it's time to own up to the fact that you have played some part in their feeling like this, and offer to help.
2006-09-01 04:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by kaylora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear dear dear. It does sound like your spouse is struggling with something. It might be for the best to gently *and I do mean gently* confront him with his note. You need to sit down and talk this over. I want neither one of you to lose your tempers; just talk to one another. Perhaps he left that where you could find it so you would talk. I hope you have the strenght to see it through. Blessings on the both of you.
2006-09-01 04:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm yea that would suck to come by....
although i do think it was meant for you to find.
i think maybe it sounds like he is gay and wants to come out, i didnt think so at first, but then as i kept reading, it made more sense. whats your marriage like? if he is distant there is the reason right in the note. i think he left that to maybe clue you in in a nice way, and not have to tell you out and out, just drop a hint in a way coming from his heart. maybe you should leave hime a note and attach the one he wrote to it and ask him if there is anything he needs to talk about and let him come clean, if u are abrupt and confrontational i think he will not be willing to tell you the meaning of all that.
2006-09-01 04:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It depends. 1st, this note demonstrate unhappiness within. This individual is seeking for help. Have a very deep and detrimental secret he or she would like to let out. Great poem
2006-09-01 04:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by Manno G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first come to terms with the fact he may be gay or thinking about infadelity, and then confront him calmly. I know it will be hard. I'm not one to be nice in situations like that. If he is one of the above, be glad he isn't a petifile.
2006-09-01 03:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you having a communication problem with your spouse? Could the letter be addressed to you? Just a thought!
2006-09-01 04:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by TK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would believe that there is something that he is hiding but wants to bring out into the light. Maybe you should be the on to help him be free at last, free of his lies and his darkness. if i were you, I would talk to him and try to help him.
2006-09-01 04:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to talk to him about it....It sounds like he's struggling with being married and gay or transgendered maybe. Just a guess. I would'n't freek out on him or whatever but I would definitely want to talk to him about it. He obviously cares and loves you or he wouldn't be struggling with it so much.
2006-09-01 03:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋