Why is it that men chose to not hear you, not care, pretend that everything is great when it's falling apart, then when you do leave because you just can't take anymore they act all shocked and hurt like they never saw it coming?
2006-09-01 03:49:50 · 20 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In the end, it's too late
2006-09-01 04:06:53 · update #1
Because they are trying to be strong, cool and in control. Well in fact, they are the ones who are weak when the time comes. They don't want to show their feelings and emotions but in the end, they will show it.
2006-09-01 04:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by rhanz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats a terrible relationship. I call it a "dog relationship." The dogs barking but they dont here it. And when the dog runs away they wanna cry. I dont consider you a dog but some men treat there woman like that. Only good for sex and cooking. If you have a man who abides by this theory I would leave. No body walks behind in a relationship. Its side to side holding hands. Hope you make the right decision boo.
2006-09-01 10:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys simply dont want to hear the bad things. They pretend all is well and hope the bad will just go away. Its called denial.
2006-09-01 10:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a gender issue. I begged my ex to go to therapy because I was unhappy and she refused thinking that everything was alright and then after several years of dealing with a loveless marriage I filed for divorce on then she wanted to go to therapy but at that point it was too late.
2006-09-01 11:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a guy is 'comfortable' within the relationship, we tend to want to stay right there. We don't want to venture out of that comfort zone, so we tend to overlook "complicated" issues, new routines, subject matters that require "out of the norm" communication...
I'm sorry ladies, but when we find that comfort zone; we are contempt, we are happy with the world, we are oblivious to anything that's not going to add extra comfort to our routine. It's not that we are ignoring you and not paying attention to your needs, we just haven't arrived to that level of GIVE-TAKE / SHARE and SHARE. You've added to the complexity by helping us to reach that comfort level, and then you yank the rug out from under us.
It's just a matter of maturity... women reach the GIVE-TAKE / SHARE and SHARE level before men, so please just continue to accept us as we are until our knuckles no longer drag the ground.
2006-09-01 11:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From a guys perspective, some women gripe,gripe,nag,nag complain, complain it loses its importance. It becomes like a squeaky wheel, an annoying background noise,you know the kind one chooses to tune out. I don't presume to know your situation but this is one possibility.
2006-09-01 11:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, alot of guys want the relationship for all the things it gets them but unfortunately they really dont want the responsibility s that go along with it.. They want there cake and eat it to...Your friend from Tennessee...ROB
2006-09-01 11:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they think they got you on a hook and your going no where, HAHa guess what, we run and we run fast. the truth is if they acting it then its true. when you leave they feel sorry for themselves and see all you did when you were there, so now its on their backs and no longer have a house mouse. let em go there is better out there.
2006-09-01 10:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by sugerglaze28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL yeah I agree with you.. I am male but happy married to my wife for will be 9 years in oct 06 and 3kids. and you are right... I learn so much when my wife tells me something i didn't listen but then I learn so much and I made it better and we now very happy.. we listen to eachother and help eachother and care for eachother and on and on and on. and that what makes my marriage strong. I thank for my wife to finally hit me with baseball bat to wake me up.
I do agree with you.
2006-09-01 11:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sasha, men like to hunt. When they catch their prey, they aren't satisfied. The thrill is in the hunt.
2006-09-01 11:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋