When we got married she was very slim. Since my fourth son was born she has made no effort to lose any weight. Now as if the children didn't cost me enough she eats all the time. I have to pay for all her food because she sits at home eating all day when the children go to school. I have to pay extra for gas when I drive her to get take out. She can't make her mind up until she gets to the drive thru and sees the menu. I have to drive because she is too fat to fit behind the steering wheel. And she costs me a fortune on sofas, chairs, beds and toilet seats because she always breaks them. Can I divorce her for letting herself go?
2006-09-01 03:39:49 · 42 answers · asked by pakistani_spack 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
omg you better be joking you ****, if your were my husband you would be shown the door you pig.
2006-09-01 03:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by jules 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
OMG are you looking for an easy way out or what........., why not take her for walks during the day or at night, you can still drive her then get out the car and WALK, join a gym you can go together or she can go herself day/night time, there are sometimes swimming times for ladies only or if you want mixed.
Do more active things together, invest in bikes for all the family.
Spend time with her and give her some attention that's prob what she needs, she may even enjoy a little part time job, encourage her more, don't kick her in the knees whens shes already down, you are her husband it is your responsibility to help her not walk away.
If you were fat don't you think your wife would leave you or stand by you and help?
Thank god shes only fat and not ill i dread to think how you would be.
Grow up and accept your responsibilities FAST.
Good luck, to your wife.
2006-09-01 04:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you driving her to get fast food? I think you are adding to the fire. Why don't you say let go for a walk or tell her to eat some salad? I think your adding to her obesity. Don't judge a person about her weight it's what's inside that counts. Having four children takes a lot out of a women's body. Please stop feeding her with junk food encourage her to eat better. You married her now help her resolve this problem. Heck if she's eating all that stuff I'm sure you are too. Maybe she thinks your fat. Why don't you both get out there and your kids and go to the playground or something.
2006-09-01 03:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have serious problems with your relationship. You don't mention your own size - I bet you are not as attractive as when your wife first married you.
Please think about getting healthy and fit as a family. Eat proper food and that means cooking from scratch with fresh healthy ingredients and sitting down as a family to eat. Buy a cook book and look at it together. Don't just expect your wife to do all this cooking - do it together.
And get some exercise - play with the kids in the park, go for a walk, go swimming, anything - but do something.
But introduce all this gently. Sit her down and say that you both have to make some changes to improve your health. I am sure that once she gets used to the idea she will be happy to go along with a regime change.
Please do it, for all your sakes.
2006-09-01 04:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by granny2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... but you could suggest your thoughts to her, without accusation and dismay... and then suggest, that you go and get some help TOGETHER!
If she starts to like herself a little and you encourage her to do so, by loving her for WHO she is, not WHAT you see... it's possible she will lose weight of her own accord and... look so gorgeous, you'll be fighting off the blokes that hang around her.
It's very true that underneath her weight, there is a lovely lady waiting to emerge... you should know, you fell in love with her!
Ask yourself a question:
Is there something that has made her feel so bad about herself, have such a down on herself, she is deliberately punishing herself, or seeking solace in the food she scoffs?
And could that something, be anything to do with your relationship?
And if it is... then help her... she's the mother of your kids... show them what it really means to be a dad and husband, be there for her and stop crassing her to others, because if she reads what you have writ my friend and she gets jolted into looking really good, you sure as heck will lose her and regret it then! And your kids will have another hunk around to call their dad:-)
2006-09-01 03:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! She needs to see her doctor and get help. She also needs to get a job! Sitting home all day and eating is being lazy! If you love her you will support her and help her seek help! If you work this out together she will love you even more and you will be saving your marriage. Remember the woman she was when you got married. She can look like that again with your help!! Just because she has become over weight doesn't mean you should leave her! That is wrong and hurtful! Help her get help!!
2006-09-01 04:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have children with this woman, but that is no excuse for her to keep stuffing her face. Can't she cook? It is unfair on you because she is taking you for granted. Make her walk to the take away, the exercise will be good.It is so bad for her health and the kids want their Mother to be around,not pushing up the daisies. Drive her to the supermarket and buy wholesome, nutritious food that fills her up. Take aways are full of fat, sugar and salt, 10 mins later she'll be hungry again.Lose weight or divorce.
2006-09-01 03:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by charterman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to help her feel better about herself, a lot of people eat because they feel depressed or worthless, I'm sure if she felt loved and valued she might have more success in avoiding overeating. You could take up a sport TOGETHER or go for walks. Be encouraging and loving rather than running her down.
2006-09-01 03:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she might need some therapy. She is using food as a stress reliever. For the sake of your children, try to get her some help. If after a year or so, nothing has improved then divorce her.
2006-09-01 03:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Karina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is depressed. 4 kids and a husband who obviously does not give a rats behind about them is not a healthy environment for her to be in. Get some counseling if you love her, if you are sure it's over divorce her, but do NOT tell her its because shes fat.
2006-09-01 04:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by rebel g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y? u dont love her anymore? Is it not just ur excuse?Because some men are. Did u try to talk to her about that? About what u feel? Maybe she thinks that its ok to u even when shes not that slim as u married her. Try to work things out and u know what ur the only one who can convinced her to diet.....if u still love her.
goodluck!
2006-09-01 03:51:00 · answer #11 · answered by KAREN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋