I am getting ready to graduate form college. I will have a degree in special education and elementary education. I live in a rural community and there are a couple of people my age (who are now parents) that still hate me because I was really immature in high school. One of them I started a fight with and harassed because she stalked my boyfriend. The other I didn't do anything to really, she just hates me beause she heard I talked about her. I didn't take any crap in high school, but I have since grown up and learned that violence is never the answer. Do you think I should feel uncomfortable if I have these girls kids in my class? I would never treat them different from others, but will their parents be uncomfortable? would you as a parent? Do you think they will still be holding a grudge? Should I apologize if they conforont me? Or should I just not worry about it?
2006-09-01 03:28:18 · 10 answers · asked by summer love 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I suggest you proceed as you would if you were teaching in a new community and no one knew anything about you. If and when you get the children of your former high school classmates, treat the kids like you said you would. You may run into the parents at a Parent-Teacher conferences or other school functions. That is where you have the "talk." Tell them you have grown up. Hopefully, they have, too.
If they don't want you teaching their children, they may ask the principal to move them to another class. I wouldn't fight it. You have enough challenges to face. When you see the parents say hello and move on.
If the problems go beyond what you are concerned about, I would then ask the Principal to arrange a meeting between you, the parents and the Principal. You can explain yourself and tell them your expectations and they can talk about their concerns.
Hopefully, none of this will happen. Try not worry about things that won't happen. But, it will be good to be "prepared" just in case.
2006-09-01 04:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any of those girls kids in your class, don't feel uncomfortable. As long as you treat them equally like you said you will, there shouldn't be any problems. If their parents are THAT uncomfortable with it, I'm sure they will just request to switch teachers. If they are still holding a grudge, well, it's time for them to grow up. If they confront you, then yes, apologize, but ONLY if you have something to apologize about. Reassure them that you've become a different person since high school and they have nothing to worry about with their kids being in your class. And remember, if they're really being a** holes about everything, remind them once again that it's time to grow up.
2006-09-01 10:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would hope, my Dear One, that these acquaintances of yours have also grown up and have also realized that violence solves nothing. Don't worry about it for right now. Treat their children just as you said you would. Are you absolutely certain they still "hate" you? Perhaps that's just a perception you still have and that you can head off by re-introducing yourself to them saying "Maybe you don't remember me, but I was such an *** in High School. I wanted to apologize..." and take it from there. Good Lucka and Blessings on your new career.
2006-09-01 10:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it you were a kid/teenager so you did some messed up things ok you have matured and now your on your way with your career if you end up with one of they're kids and they dont like it they most likely will transfer the child out of your class if not then teach the kids and be a good teacher too all the kids treat them all the same dont look at the child and think anything else except that you want him/her to learn
2006-09-01 10:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teaching in a rural area has its own set of challenges. You will have children of people you went to school with. You say you have matured, maybe these women have also.
Every situation is different so handle each one as it occurs. I have had students in my classes of close friends, ex-girlfriends, and people that I didn't like in high school. People do change.
Be professional in your interactions with both students and their parents and you will do fine!
Good Luck!
2006-09-01 10:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now that you have realized your immature behaviour in the past, I think it would be decent of you to apologize to them. Explain to them that you have grown out of your childish behaviour in the past and think that what you had done to them in the past was wrong.
You would like to put the past behind and ask them to forget about the past. Who knows they may turn out to be the best of friends with you, after you have cleared the air with them.
Suggest inviting them to tea to talk to them.
2006-09-01 10:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they end up in your class, then you need to talk about the situation. Yes, be the bigger person, and apologize if they confront you about it.
2006-09-01 10:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, like you, they too have seen that maturity changes people. If it is addressed explain to them just like you did to us! Good Luck!
2006-09-01 10:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by KIMBO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be confident... be youreself... youre past dont define your future... do the best that you can. you cannot blame them because of your high school life, but you can change their impressions to you by showing that you have change..
2006-09-01 10:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it unless they bring it up. If they do try to blow it off "yea I was much different then", how are you doing?
2006-09-01 10:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋