Is this right?

Question

My friend had a beautiful baby girl yesterday by c section .She was fully knocked by aneasthetic. Her husband wasnt allowed in the room when it was delivered because the doctor said most men faint?? and when it had been born they didnt gave the baby to them to hold they just put it in a cot beside the bed 4 hours later they still hadnt held it (There was no nurse around to ask) . She could barely move and the husband wasnt shown how to hold it.
Also the nurse gave the baby a bottle of formula milk when it was born she said it was hungry this was before the mother woke up.

Me and my friend are british we are living in turkey she is married to a turkish man.

We are both only 22 so I was wondering was this proccedure correct it all seemed a bit odd to me

This was a private hospital not a county hospital

Answer 1

If the mom was fully knocked out they won't let the dad watch but a nuse should have let him hold the baby!

Answer 2

That would be all wrong if it happened in the United States, but I know that customs differ everywhere.

I had a c-section back in February, and this is how it went:
I had a spinal (numb from the chest down), because here they only knock you out if it's an emergency procedure. After everything was all set up, they let my boyfriend come in, and he had a little stool set up by my head. There was a paper curtain set up, so neither of us could see what was happening.

At the moment the were going to take the baby out, they lowered the curatain so we could see him being born, but only because I asked them to. That isn't a normal part of the procedure.

The baby and his daddy were taken to a warming table at the side of the room, and the baby was wiped off a little, wrapped up snug in a blanket, and had a hat put on. Then they let me see him, and he and his daddy were taken to the nursery (his daddy was allowed to carry him) where they cleaned him up the rest of the way, checked him over well, and weighed and measured him.

I was still in the operating room for another 30 minutes, but someone called in and told me the weight and length.

I was taken back to my room, and within a few minutes, a nurse escorted my boyfriend and my son into the room, where I was able to hold him for a moment, but then had to have my boyfriend hold him because I was shaking badly because of a reaction to the spinal.

We stayed in the room, just the three of us for about a half an hour, and I was able to nurse him for the first time, even though the nurses explained to me that he wasn't really hungry yet, but the sooner you nurse, the sooner he'd get used to it, and the sooner my milk would come in.

There was one nurse that gave my son bottles while we were in the hospital, but she got into trouble for it, because that interfered with my breast feeding.

I think that if I were your friends husband, I would have picked the baby up anyway. There should be no need to ask someone if you can pick up your own child, so long as the baby was perfectly healthy and not hooked up to some kind of machines, or anything.

I'm sorry that she had a not-so-good birthing experience, and congrats on her new baby girl!

Answer 3

If she was totally out then the father is not allowed in the room, but he should have been able to hold the baby soon after she was born. It's quite normal for C-section babies to be given a bottle, the baby can be too sleepy to breastfeed and the mothers body is not ready for producing milk. I had a C-section and didn't hold my baby properly until the next day, infact I went to sleep and she was taken away until morning. This felt quite strange but I couldn't have done anything for her as I couldn't move. Just one question, didn't they have a nurse call button by the bed? Tell your friend to enjoy every minute of being in hospital and having people do things for her, it doesn't last!

Answer 4

I don't know how things work in Turkey, but here in the US the man is allowed in the operating room during the c section, the mother is usually awake, but doesn't feel the operation. The husband is allowed to hold the baby as soon as its born, they clean up the baby and go to the room. The mother is suppose to attempt breast feeding, and if that doesn't work THEN AND ONLY THEN do they give the baby formula. There is always someone to ask questions to, and you usually have all the information you need about the baby. That's about as much as I know. Hope I helped.

Answer 5

Here in the UK that wouldn't happen.

Skin to skin contact is VERY important to a newborn baby and I know most hospitals (NHS Included) encouarge Dad to do it if Mum can't for whatever reason.

Men can also be present in the C-Section delivery room and generally woman are given a local anisthetic (epidural) so they are awake throughout the procedure.

As for feeding the baby, this might be normal if Mum is to tired or weak.

It seems the Turkish have a different attitude about this.

I hope your friend is doing well and has bonded with baby.

((HUGS)) To all, doesn't sound like the nice experiance birth should be.

Answer 6

Ok first the husband wasnt allowed in the room not because of fainting but if the mom was put to sleep there are more risks and the cant have the spouse in there if something went wrong with mom or baby from anesthesia. the need to be able to act quickly and not have someone in their way. next they need to be sure mom is fully awake and coherent before holding baby to be sure mom doesnt accidentally drop baby. all dad would have had to do is call for a nurse and ask them to show him how to hold the baby. As for the feeding the nurse usually does the first feeding if you are put to sleep because they need to be sure baby can eat and all her organs work. remember when baby is inside of you they eat off of mom and nobody knows how much or often they are eating.i am 24 and have had both of my babies by c-section

Answer 7

Hi, When I had my son almost 12 years ago I was under a general too. The answer to the 1st part is a definite NO, Husbands or partners are not allowed in the room unless the mum is awake for the c section, they are only allowed in to give support to her and help her to feel more at ease. This is not an issue if she is asleep. My son had also been given a bottle before i had woken up. my son had just been wheeled down to my bedside and left with us, but i have to say that once there he was put in his dad's arms for a cuddle. As most people know the 1st few hours of a baby's life is when it bonds most to mum and dad. they needed to have skin to skin contact really. (I do live in the UK though)

Answer 8

if the mum was under aneasthetic then they simply dont allow her partner in the room. his role in birthing is to support the mother & when asleep she doesnt need support - he could also not handle witnessing the operation whith his partner asleep. its very different from being awake & is often only done in emergencies.

however i find it very strange that the midwife didnt have him hold his child after birth - as long as the baby is healthy human interaction is encourgaed. im sure if he asked he would have been able to hold the baby, its usually assumed that they dont need to be shown how - babys arent as breakable as they look.

babys arent usually hungry when they are born, but they will suckle if encouraged. there is no reason why the baby couldnt wait till the mother was awake & breastfed or been fed by its father - i guess different hospitals run things in a differnt way. heck, some hospitals of neighbouring towns are run differently.

i do agree that the situation is a bit odd, many people when faced with doctors & nurses often wait to be given instructions, but by speaking up & expressing their own views, your friends experience could have been different. the baby is *theirs* they are in charge, i hope that all is well now & that she is beginning her recovery with plenty of support.

Answer 9

I am from New York, and have had 2 c sections. Both times my partner was aloud in the room. He even got to hold the baby right after. I was out for a few hours so the nurse gave the baby water bottles. Maybe the hospital she went to is different,.

Answer 10

I don't know about Turkey hospitals, but in the US this is not the way hospitals handle standard c sections. The father would be in the room and the mother would not be completely knocked out. Also the baby would not have been given formula unless the staff knew that the mother was not going to breast feed.

Answer 11

OK a "C" section is an operation that requires a sugeons full attention, he can't be distracted by hysterical family members, & fainting husbands. The mother was knocked out of action, so was her baby supposed to be left to starve until the mom woke up? So far it sounds alright to me.
As for the father not knowing how to pick the baby up, he had 9 months to learn that.
You live in Turkey, so I guess that if that is the way things are done in Turkey, & it is below British standards, then maybe your friend should have had the baby in a British hopital.