eachother so I suspect he starting to have an emotional affair and he may not be realizing it...do you think my suspicious is true?
2006-09-01 03:00:45 · 29 answers · asked by mitch p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yea... If he's talking/texting her all the time.. thats one of the first signs. Its ok to have friends that are girls, My best friend is a guy- so I get it... but If it bothers you, make sure you let him know. If it bothered my husband that I talked to or texted my guy friends too much, I would cut back in a heart beat so I didnt hurt him.
2006-09-01 03:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, "do you think my suspicious is true?" How can anyone answer that question without knowing more than one side of the story? And that "side" is expressed in a couple of brief sentences.
I will say this. In my opinion there is more here than meets the eye.
Something is wrong in your marriage and it goes far beyond a few phone calls or text messages. Either your husband is not getting something from the marriage that he needs or you are simply a suspicious person looking for any reason to be upset. Both of those situations can occur simultaneously. You may want to do some reevaluations.
Talking with your husband is fine and that should happen regularly, not just when something is bothering you. If your husband finds the marriage lacking he wasn't able to discuss it with you for whatever reason. If his activities amount to communicating with a friend then the problem is on your end.
If you two can't get this sorted out fast, and you want to remain married, I would suggest some counseling. Sometimes discussion on neutral ground can go a long way. Good luck.
I just reread my answer before submitting it. It isn't worded as well as I would like but I don't see anyway to fix it. I really am seriously trying to help so please try to get the meaning, and know the meaning is not to hurt you or your husband.
2006-09-01 03:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of being suspicious, politely talk with your husband about your concerns and let him know that you find it odd and you're not comfortable with it.
If he downplays it, there's still no reason to suspect the worst, but I recommend that you play a more active role with this "friendship". If she is his friend, then she should be your friend as well... if she calls, ask to say hello and jump right into a conversation. Ask (nicely) to see some of the text messages... since we're all friends now, there should be nothing they can't text message without you seeing it too. Send her some text messages... suggest you all go out to lunch sometime. If there was something going on, she will get the "real" message you are sending her. Your husband will freak because he's not going to expect this...
Remember the old sayings:
"Keep your friends close, and keep your enemies closer"
"You catch more flies with honey, than vinegar"
2006-09-01 03:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are telling suspects, it means u are not sure. Find out before u confront ur husband. If they are only friends sorting office work then its gonna be bad for your relationship.
Secondly, check out why is he doing it. Is it there is lack of communication between both of you.
If u love your man, do something about it and think wisely
Good luck and take care
2006-09-01 03:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by angelinecja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be but instead of brooding over it it is better to talk to your husband and let him know your feelings and reason out with him what is best in the interest of the family, and yes take a holiday just the two of you it will get you closer
2006-09-01 03:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Practical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sound like it. You have the power to stop it !! Just come right out and ask him, tell him how would he feel if you where doing the same,etc. Good luck''
2006-09-01 03:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by SUN FLOWER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO MAKING ASSUMPTIONS, YOU'LL DRIVE YOURSELF CRAZY. YOU HAVE TO TRUST YOUR MATE DON'T THINK THE WORST, IF YOU FEEL IN YOUR GUT THAT HE'S CHEATING THAN TALK TO HIM. DON'T YELL, DON'T THROW ACCUSATIONS JUST TALK IT OUT QUIETLY OVER DINNER, OR HOWEVER ELSE YOU TWO USUALLY COMMUNICATE. THIS IS A VERY SENSITIVE MATTER SO YOU MUST BE SURE BEFORE YOU BROACH THE SUBJECT. LOTS OF LUCK TO YA!
2006-09-01 03:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Wisline F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut! usually, it is right! i hope not for your sake, but sweetie you are the only one he should be texting or talking to on the phone! you should be his "emotional affair" no one else! good luck
2006-09-01 03:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by scott's wifey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The old saying is true in most cases. "Where there is Smoke there's Fire. Follow him. Good Luck
2006-09-01 03:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by Patty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No doubt he could be. even if it is a sort of friendly thing it can lead to more than that.
CONFRONT HIM NOW...it's drop it or your a dead man.
I know my wife would have kicked my rear out the door if i did this.
2006-09-01 03:05:23 · answer #10 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋