I want the person to be able to provide for her as she has been use too. I dont want her doing with out. And so far she is bring home nothing but loosers. Should I but out, or simply tell these loooser to get lost
2006-09-01 02:47:45 · 31 answers · asked by marydee92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow--I was that daughter once. My mom and I fought and it broke my heart to see her cry--she only wanted the best for me but I was defiant. Don't forbid anything but just let her know you aren't pleased and you only want whats best for her. Don't totally do for her like you have been or like she is used to. Even though you may not see it it will hurt her to know she is hurting you because she knows deep down that you have her best interest at heart. Eventually I started to see the things my parents pointed out to me in my boyfriend and I broke up with him on my own. I thank God everyday that my parents love has always been so strong for me. My mom and I now are the best of friends--good luck and realize it will take time--pray and God will see you through.
2006-09-01 02:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by keepingthefaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong to think that way. i will say you are not a caring mom! A caring mom will try to look what will make her happy, and she is the only person to know what is her happiness. You cannot decide what is good for her or not. You should let her decide by herself. But as a caring mom, you should educate her well, teach her what is good and what is bad. Give her the reasons. So her the meaning of true love. Dont be possessive. Never try to impose or force her to do anything. If she is going to do something wrong, warn her and tell her why is it that whatever shie is going to do is wrong. But dont forcefully try to stop her. Let her decide. Of course, if ever she did something wrong even though you warned her, then you should support her. She will learn from her mistakes.
Finally, you cannot buy love with money, but with love you can get anything you like. So if ever she decides to marry someone who is less rich than you are, you shouldnt stop her. What you must assure is that she should be always be happy! Happiness doesnt lie in wealth but in emotional and mental peace!
2006-09-01 10:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should want your daughter to marry because she loves the person not because he has money, My mother tried to do the same thing she thought my husband who is a Sgt in the Army wasnt good enough for me. She was rude to him and truely let it be known that she did not like him. After I let so much slide I couldnt take it anymore and I stopped talking to my mother for over a year, during that year I married him she was not invited she didnt even know I got married until after I did it, then I moved to another state without her knowing. Now she realized that what she did was wrong I am an adult and I have the right to choose my happiness not her. Just because you are not happy doesnt mean she is not either. The only way you should interfere is if these men are abusing of her. Maybe you should look at your life and try to fix what you are not happy and let your daughter live her life. You cant live it for her, if you have regets from your life dont try to live your life through hers
2006-09-01 10:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by ArmyWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your job is not to decide who your daughter can be with. It is to Love her and wish her the best. You need to be their to support her when she needs it.
Your have no right deciding who is a loser and who isn't [unless you know the person personally]
Just because you have spoiled your daughter with money and items, don't mean nothing. She could be a real b!cth out side the home.
Just because you provided for her all these years, is not grounds to decide for her what she can and can not do!
Just maybe those so called losers give her something that you never could. Like attention or love or even just a little bit more respect.
2006-09-01 10:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to but out. If you speak up, all that will do it push her closer to the losers. Most young people have to struggle when they start out anyway. If they don't then they will never have an appreciation or value for anything in life. Is she planning on going to college? Steer her towards a career indirectly without her thinking you are telling her what to do.
2006-09-01 13:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her figure it out on her own. That's what I had to do. My mom tried telling me some of the guys I dated were losers, but I paid no attention. Now, looking back, I can see she was right.
She may make some mistakes, but that's part of life. Be there for her when they break her heart.
2006-09-01 10:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell the losers to get lost. Is your daughter an adult? If she is, there is little you can do. But you can sit down with her and have a heart to heart talk about her future and what you want for her. Hopefully, she will listen to her mother. Watch for any signs of abuse.
2006-09-01 09:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can only learn from her mistakes ,, sure you can point out what is wrong on him.. but she will only do what she wants
Just don´t say anything and see if she drops the loser
then you know that all she wanted to do is see you worry.
She should provide for herself and have someone provide for her
she should stand on her own two feet frist...
then she will have more respect for herself.
2006-09-01 09:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can appreciate where your coming from here.....But it goes both ways, I am the mother of two teenage sons and I'm trying to teach them to be educated and not get caught in the wh*re trap!!
To say you want someone to provide for her is unrealistic in today's times, depending on the lifestyle she wants to live, it is generally going to take two incomes.....You are setting her up to be labeled as a materialistic b*tch..... A title she's not going to like having! The best thing we {as parents} can do for our children is to help them become educated hence they will not
feel as if they have "settled" in the latter part of their lives....
The thing that we should all be teaching our children is to take care of yourself, because the only one you can truly depend on is you......And by the way NO ONE will ever be good enough for our children.....But that's not our decision to make now is it???
2006-09-01 13:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee are you going to marry him when you finally like who your daughter is going to marry.
Back off. Your daughter or your daughter is going to find the biggest slug in the world so she can spite you.
It is her life. Let her live it.
By the way if she does find mister perfect you can bet he will tell you to but out. Now that will be the perfect husband.
2006-09-01 10:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋