i LIED... well... i LIED about things about me to other people... like my AGE and BIRTHDAY... GEESH! now i feel scared that they might find out... i didn't really mean to LIE... it JUST bursted out of my mouth without me even thinking! if he finds out theyrs not goin' to trust me anymore! but... if youll give advise... IT MUST NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME CONFESSING THE TRUTH... THATS WHEY HARD!... i cant try to avoid them cuz' we ride the same thing going home and we have the same classes... what now?!
2006-09-01 02:35:13 · 24 answers · asked by Yo. 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Gee... i never thought i'll get this many answers...
2006-09-01 13:42:43 · update #1
If you won't confess and can't avoid them then guess what....you're just going to have to hope they don't find out. Hope you learned a lesson. The truth is always best.
2006-09-01 02:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One part of humility is admitting when you are wrong. Swallow your pride and tell the truth. I don't know exactly what it will entail if you tell these individuals your age - they may or may not like you. But regardless of they like you or not, telling the truth is a great characteristic to have and in the long run it will protect you from situations like this. You can find new friends and build stronger friendships but lying and mistrust is what destroys all that. Don't think you can cover one lie with another, that only gets you deeper into trouble. The older you get, the more challenging it gets to do the right thing because of all the temptations that are out there. But start off right and confess that you lied and tell these people that you made an error. If they choose not to be your friends, at least you told the truth and you can move on and make new friends. Clear your conscience.
2006-09-01 02:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by wonderwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to lie in the first place? You should feel afraid they will find out. Lying will give you nightmares. Believe me, I have lied before myself. We all tell lies in some form or other. Sometimes we don't want to hurt someone's feelings so we lie and tell they look nice when they don't. Unfortunately, that is still a lie. Just find a time you can talk to this person and tell them why you lied and that you are sorry. If they are a friend, they will forgive you. Also, ask forgiveness of yourself. You don't want to become a pathological liar, do you? One lie leads to another, and then you c an't remember the first lie, and eventually you will be caught. I don't know if you are male or female, but if you are male, chances are you are trying to impress a female and making her think you are older than you really are. Please edit you question or make comments. It might help us answer your question better.
God Bless you.
2006-09-01 03:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by makeitright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are going to find out anyway. Wouldn't it be best if they heard the truth from you? Just say, "know what? I often say stuff without thinking." Then explain that you wish you were the age you said.
Or, try this. "Know what? I just wish I was ___. I'm really not. So kick me."
The main thing to do is practice how you'll say it so that it comes out easily and no so much like "people, I've sinned." Make light of it and they will too. Good luck and try thinking before bursting out with what you think people want to hear. No more worries! LOL
2006-09-01 02:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you're very young and you're talking about the bus you ride to school. Did you tell someone you were older so that they would hang out with you? Listen, if they would hold it against you that you're a little younger than them they aren't worth being friends with. But they might have a little respect for you if you fess up and tell them why you told the lie. Plus, it's just your age. If it's a couple of years it's no biggie and they'll probably laugh and forget about it the next day. They probably already forgot what you said your birthday was anyway!
2006-09-01 02:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important to think about why you feel the need to lie in the first place. What will you gain from the lies? Is it for acceptance from your peers, to make yourself sound like someone else more interesting? I know that being a young is not easy, most of the time you feel insecure and alone. You can choose to lie in order to make yourself sound more interesting, to "fit in" and to gain your peer's esteem.
However, as you have already found out, lying is a slippery slope because sooner or later you will have to make up more lies to cover up the initial lies you have told. Pretty soon, as you have explained in your letter, you will be living in fear of being found out. Think about it, is this superficial acceptance from your peers worth the anguish, effort, and the loss of your integrity and self-respect? Don't forget, after all that effort, your peers have only really accepted a fictional account of you, not who you truly are.
On the other hand, you can choose to be who you really are, and be honest to your peers. Remember that, you can be the best in who you are, but only a poor imitation of someone else. And the people who are worthy of you are the ones that love and care about you just the way you are.
Now, the problem at hand is that you have already lied to your friends again and again, what should you do? I know that you really don't want to confess the truth to them, but know that sooner or later the truth will come out. It is a matter of whether you want them to find out from someone else, or from you? You can choose to tell them yourself, and let them know how you sincerely feel about this, and if they are truly your friends they will understand, and hopefully forgive you. Ultimately though, the choice is yours.
2006-09-01 03:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by spudnik8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll grow to regret it if you don't fess up and tell the truth!!! The answer thats the hardest is usuallly the best. Make a fresh start, tell the truth, if they don't want anything to do with you then so be it and move on. Learn from this that telling the truth will save you alot of grief and worry.
2006-09-01 02:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That was WHEY STUPID! If you don't want to tell the truth then just avoid conversations about your age and birthday. But honestly they will probably find out eventually and then you'll have to face the music. My real advise is to stop lying. Grow up and just be okay with who you are.
2006-09-01 02:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by walkingdisastr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to lie about your age and birthday for internet stuff. But if you said something stupid like your 18 or something they might use you for bad things. Next time just try to avoid those questions.:)
2006-09-01 03:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by BlueStrawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sis is a compulsive liar too. Next time do something different.. like think about the consequenses. They are going to have a laugh at your expense when the truth finally comes out.
2006-09-01 02:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to play...you gotta pay.
You lied and if they find out from somewhere else they won't trust you.
If you tell them you lied and 'fess up' they may not trust you, but at least they learned it on your terms instead of somewhere else.
This ain't television. Your writers aren't going to wrap it up for you within the episode.
Stop lying and your life will be less full of stress.
2006-09-01 02:40:27 · answer #11 · answered by splitshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋