i dont know what to do my best friend was killed underneath a bridge in salem oregon she was struck with something hard liek a rock or something and burned she was dead before they burned her i am so depressed and upset i am 21 years old and my life was bad before this to she was homeless a 20 year old her name was candy she always went by that name and nobody not even her best friends knew her real name, her last name was kell i wish i could have helped her by letting her stay here but its not my place and the other person was selfish, i feel so bad that this has happened her parents dont even care didnt even shed a tear i feel like commiting suicide what should i do im so out of it i started drinking vodka again because im so upset and than this guy called tonight telling me he helped kill her and hes in jail now im just astonished at what this world has came to can someone kill me or can someone help me i wont tell on you im just so upset f**k what should i do?
2006-09-01 02:11:25 · 10 answers · asked by DIFFERENT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My father and brother were both murdered approximately 3 years apart. One day I was sorting some of my Mother's papers and began to read their death certificates. To my astonishment, the bullets that killed each of them entered their body in the same manner.
Those that knew me often said that I spoiled my father and my brother spoiled me. That just gives you an idea how much I loved them and suffered when I received the announcement that they were no longer with me.
Over and over in my mind I tortured the killers and I watched them suffer. However after a number of years, I realized I was not getting anywhere with that mentality! Only when I began to search myself and asked God to please set me free from the bondage of their murderers and very slowly began to forgive them, was I able to start my healing process.
Yes, there was a lot of tears, pain and sleepless nights, but ultimately I won. Sounds like something that is just made up, but trust me, until I was able to forgive, then and only then was I able to start my healing process.
How do I coup even today, I remember the laughs we shared and the stories we shared. You also must remember that one day everyone will have to stand before a just God and give account for every deed that we have done in our body. I'll keep you in my prayers and may God give you the peace that He has given me.
2006-09-01 02:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Matured One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need supportive company, not vodka. One drink is too many, and a thousand is not enough. Find a 12 step group when you read this (Alcoholics Anonymous), you'll make friends, and find answers to your other question about being abused.
Make this your low point, and don't go any lower. If you only do what you are doing now, you'll only have what you have right now. Do something different.
2006-09-01 11:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"its better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all"
i am sorry for your loss. but think about what she would say right now. she would probably say there is no need for you to end your life because of anothers life is gone. at least be happy the man is in jail and will not a thing like that agian. you only get one chance to live. live it out.
2006-09-01 09:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was her time...and nothing or nobody in the universe can stop it form happening when its their time to go...I'm sorry for your loss. always remember ...ppl on the other side dont hold grudges...they cant be mad...she doesnt blame you!! It wouldnt be heaven if you could be mad! right? She will be watching you..I promise! Look for signs!
2006-09-01 09:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Reels O'Ribbon♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy- You should stop drinking and get a tattoo in memory of her, seriously, it's like they protect you through the tattoo. I hope she will find you up there someday, and you will prosper.
2006-09-01 09:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut to the rescue! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being upset about what happened is normal.. but the best thing you could do is pray for her soul.. thatll will help her.. dont blame urself with what happened.. things really happen.. it sucks but its life.. well never know what will happen next..
2006-09-01 09:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by mestiza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop drinking! the best you can do is pray for you and herself and maybe go seek professional help(psychologist etc) you dont want to hurt yourself, physically or mentallly
2006-09-01 09:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by <333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont start drinking it wont help. pray.
2006-09-01 09:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by dorazioyoman6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray
2006-09-01 09:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by dede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I'd start crying or something.
2006-09-01 09:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋