Big Mistake but need suggestions?

Question

I made a huge mistake 6 months ago and I am soon to be the father of twin boys. Any name suggestions?

Answer 1

how about David (from Dave Grohl, Foo Fighters) & Bill (from Bill Gates) Ok Bill is kinda sucky hey. How about Jack? I like Jack. Um, lets see, Sam? James? Jesse? Jason? Mark? I have a friend who named her boy Aquilia. Another Mitchell.
It sucks for ya that you are thinking it was a mistake, but so be it. Im sure you will change your mind about it once they are in your arms. Can you just keep one thing in mind? You & the female made the "mistake" so try not to ever make your boys feel like it was theirs. It really stuffs a kids head when they are raised knowing that they were a mistake & were'nt wanted, especially this far into the pregnancy.
All the best anyway dude, its an exciting time in your life, forget about the crappy thoughts, there are wounderous times ahead for you. You can help them to be smart little cookies...who wont make the same "mistake" as you :o)

Answer 2

Babies are not mistakes. It might have been unintended, but you are going to be a father forever now, so you should stop thinking negatively about these children and really embrace fatherhood. Just because they weren't planned doesn't mean they won't be a joy to you -- but only if you raise them right. They should NEVER think they were mistakes-that is a cruel thing to do to a kid. It might be a surprise, but it could be the best thing that ever happened in your life, as well.

As for names...please don't make them rhyme (Ryan and Bryan, that sort of thing). Even though they are twins, they are still individuals who will have their own identities. If you want to honor your parents, you and the mother could name one after each of your fathers or another important male figure (uncle, brother, etc.). Please don't give them weird, made up names...I feel sorry for kids who are saddled with goofy, crazy names that no one can spell.

Answer 3

The only "Mistake" you are making is referring to your beautiful twin boys as mistakes.

What is done is done. To call that act a mistake is to call those boys a mistake. Once you see their little eyes and fingers and toes, you will know what I mean. They could never be a "mistake" or the product of a "mistake". Embrace the little fella's and love them with all your might! They need you.

As for names... Now that I got that other part off my chest, maybe I can think of a few suggestions and I will be back.

Best of blessings to you and your family.

Answer 4

im glad you wrote that *you* make a mistake - rather than the babies are a mistake...

if you still feel negative about fatherhood perhaps you arent the best person to come up with baby name ideas, im assuming the babys mother has ideas of her own.

i think calling babys - especually twins - by names with the same initial or that rhyme awful. they will cringe in later years when they are playgin football with the friends & their mum calls over for their attention...

some people choose a thems, such as name their girls after flowers, or their boys after older male relatives. i always chose my kids 1st names by whatever i felt was nice, but i chose their middle names after family members.

a few boys names i like are;

Dylan
Chase
Bradley
Drake
Brody
Carl
Jason

remember to think of if you like what the names will be shortened to - for example Callum, will be called Cow for short & make sure the initials dont spell something silly like dic or pig etc...

good luck, babys can be hard work & twins is more than double the work to begin with. those early months do pass, so try & remember that at 4am when you are changing yet another dirty bum & think that you maybe slept 2 weeks ago tuesday.

Answer 5

You should have dealt with the feelings of a "mistake" a long time ago.

Now you have a fantastic opportunity to bring two babies into the world and raise them to be good & caring individuals. Never think that these two babies are or were a mistake. You'll mark them for life as losers. Please don't do that. You have a chance now to mold these individuals into great human beings.

Do your best, work your hardest to bring them up right. Support them and love them.

A suggestion for your boys would be to name them family names. Or perhaps a combination of family names or even combinations of the mother's maiden name or family names.

Best wishes to you and your family!

Answer 6

Congrats!!! I knew people would give you flack on saying it was a huge mistake, just one piece of advice, never ever let you kids ever know you said that about them, that can cause problems later when they are older, causing resentment and hurt feelings. If you still feel like that later, then when they are old enough give them the opportunity to learn from your "mistake" so they are not fathers of unplanned children, but once they are born, hopefully they will not be a mistake but angels from heaven and gifts from God.

ANYWAY>>
names you are asking for??
How about, Zach and Joshua

Good luck!!!

Answer 7

Shawn and Shane. Or Michael and Matthew. Billy and Bobby. Something like that. That would be cool. Remember that when it comes to boys you have to be careful to pick names that won't get picked on later.They do not have to be a mistake. They can be a blessing. Being a parent is a great thing. It has bad moments, but that is life. Twins can be great. They will be there for each other, help each other, and keep each other company. It will be fantastic I promise. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Reese Matthew
Riley Christopher
Joseph Benjamin

Answer 9

First of all, you shouldn't refer to them as mistakes. They're a "Surprise". Especially when you're talking to them later in life, please don't refer to them as mistakes. If you don't love their mother, or don't care about her, or whatever, being with her may have been the mistake, but not them. It's actually touching that you're at least caring enough to start working on names - that's a good sign. Just remember to be there for them, even it's not going well between you and their mother (I know that I don't know your exact situation, I'm just saying if that is the case). If you don't get along with her, or you're not with her, or whatever, it doesn't mean that your boys should suffer.

As for names: I'd say just as long as you don't pick something that will get them teased later in life, you'll be okay. I had girls, but before we knew they would be girls, we played with biys' names, too. Sometimes, It's better to pick a name that would have several possibilities as dar as what they want to be called later in life. For example, for girls, Margaret is one of the most common names, because they can go by Margaret, Maggie, Peggy, Peg, Mag, Marge, etc.
My best friend has a son named Dalton, and that's about all he can go by.

Here's a good website for finding baby names: http://community.duematernity.com/babyNames.php

You can just pick the baby's gender and it gives names, or you can pick the eithnic background you want (if you're really keen on naming them something that represents your background). Good luck with your boys. They're truly a blessing.

Answer 10

From the sound of things NOT and WANTED if it was such a huge mistake. I just hope when they are growing up you feel differently and if you don't at least don't let them know you think of them as a huge mistake.