how do i make my stubborn daughter study?

Question

she hates to study.what should i do.

Answer 1

Who doesn't hate to study?

The most important thing is good modeling. TEACH her studying strategies. Work with her when she studies. Make it a special time the two of you spend together.

(She'll still probably hate it, but she'll be grateful later.)

Answer 2

I have friends that don't like to study because sometimes they don't know the best way to approach their work. They ask me how I study and when I explain it to them they wouldn't always study the same way. Maybe your daughter doesn't want to study because she hasn't found the best way to do so just yet. Try going over some work with her to encourage her to study. Coming up with different ways to study can also make the task less of a pain. For example, if you could find an interactive CD in a textbook (even for higher grade levels such as AP Biology) going through the CD might be better than going through the textbook.

Answer 3

YOU ARE THE PARENT... lay down the law. Set times aside for her to do chores/studies/clean her room or whatever at certain times. She will need to learn scheduling as she gets older so she might as well start now.

Have her sit at the kitchen table and NOT her room... she will get distracted there. Let her study for 40 minutes and then allow a break for 10-15... depending on her age. Younger kids generally have less ability to "focus" than older kids. Don't let her study hungry as this will also lower focus ability... and make her stick to it! No studying, no good grades, no college will accpet her, she will work at McDonalds the rest of her life... explain the jist of studying to her for motivation. PLUS... when she gets all of her studying done during the week... she has the entire weekend off to play! See if that rings a bell with her.

If she still refuses to study... no TV, video, phone calls or seeing friends will put a hurtin on her social life which is a "killer" to a young lady!

Answer 4

Take an interest in how your child is doing at school so he or she will believe that learning is important. If you can, find ways to get involved at your child's school.

Be a good role model. If you sometimes bring work home with you or you're taking a course yourself, your child will learn your habits.

Help your child organize things. For example, the protractor and compass belong in the math binder, sheet music in the violin case.

Help her organize space. The kitchen table is for eating; your child's desk is for studying.

Help your child organize time. Establish a routine for completing schoolwork. It doesn't have to be the minute your child walks in the door; just agree on a set time and stick to it.

Consider making study time a time for the entire family to gather together in a designated study area to focus on learning. Parents can take this time to prioritize for the next day, research a new subject or complete unfinished work.

Minimize distractions. Thirteen-year-old wisdom notwithstanding, geometric proofs are not better retained when learned concurrently with loud music, TV and a telephone receiver at one ear.

Check your child's work. Every night is unnecessary, but check it often enough that she knows you might - and that you care.

Insist that sloppy or careless work be redone, but don't correct errors; teachers need to know what students don't know.

Tell your child often that you believe in her. Give praise whenever possible and appropriate. A sincere expression of pride in your child's academic accomplishments can go a long way toward making studying a habit.

See what the school offers in the way of study skills training. Particularly in middle school and high school, helpful classes are becoming more readily available.

Allow your child to participate in household projects such as cooking and assembling. These activities require reading and following directions. Giving children opportunities to do things for themselves and learn from their mistakes allows them to develop the skills and confidence needed throughout their lives. It also helps them value learning.

Ask all the people who care about your child - aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, godparents, babysitters, neighbors, and friends - to encourage your child to do well in school.

GOODLUCK!

Answer 5

Reward her for any time she does study - sometimes just an encouraging word will be enough.

Otherwise, deprive her of all she holds dear until she has no choice but to study. She'll hate you and demand to know why it's so important, at which point you can go through the classifieds with her to show her all kinds of great jobs (health care, sales, whatever) and note for her the kind of experience needed to get each one.

Answer 6

Don't get anger on ur daughter when she refuses to study . let her do her work for some time Go on observing her u may find her intresting area .Then provide facilities to her in improving her intrested area and then slowly tell her the importance of studing and show her examples in the real world who gained through studies and offer her some gifts when she do better in her exams and don't scold her even when she does'nt.Tell her politely but don't rudely beat her if she is not studying.


Bye

Answer 7

I have the same problem with one of my daughters. The trick is to try to make it fun and interesting for her. Yes, this takes time away from you and your responsibilities, but its worth it in the end. Once she sees how interesting studying can be, and how much knowledge she is gaining by doing so, she will want to study all the time.

I help my daughter by explaining to her how important it is that she understand her subjects. Each one is important in its own way. She may not use all of the knowledge that she is gaining from each of these subjects, but as she gets older, she will be able to use what she has learned to help her own children with their homework.

I also find that it is best for them to start on their homework as soon as they get home, because the days events and what they went over in class is still fresh in their minds. If you let them do what they want till 8 or 9 and then begin their homework they will be less likely to remember what they did earlier in the day.

Try to make it special time between you and her. I know that it might be hard if she is in her teens, you know how kids are at that age, but stick to it and spend as much time with her on her homework as you can afford. She will appreciate the gesture and hopefully repay you by learning study skills on her own.

Just be there for her and try to make it fun.

Answer 8

Hi auntie! You know your daughter does not know the reason for why she must study.Call her next to you,sit with her and tell the importance of learning and show her some people who are suffering due to illiteracy.Also tell her or show her people who are having great success due to literacy.If you bribe her she will always expect that.If you punish her by taking away her things she will never study and will always be arrogant.
Hope this helps! Best of luck.

Answer 9

Take her out to the local trailer park and show her where she will be in 10 years if she doesn't study. Or maybe you could show her some jobs that she will have to do if she's uneducated.

Answer 10

Withhold privileges such as the computer or TV until she does study. Hold back her allowance. Don't let her use the car, or have friends come over until her homework is done.