if i found the girl totally unattractive to me- whaYT IS THE SHORTEST time i should stay. and how do i excuse myself
2006-09-01 01:58:14 · 23 answers · asked by don;t know 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be kind and stay as long as you can so not to make her feel bad. Explain after she isnt your type blah blah BUT shes a really nice girl.
That way you wont offend her or make an enemy and she will tell all her nice/fit mates that your a lovely bloke!
2006-09-01 02:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by loopy lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a general rule that I have followed. Even if we've spoken on the phone, and gotten along well, if it is a blind date, I set a certain amount of time for our first blind date. And I live up to it! Chances are if you're not feeling the chemistry, she isn't either. If you keep it to a lunch date, it's naturally shorter than a dinner date. Or you might suggest going out to get a couple of drinks, but this leaves the interpretation wide open for how many drinks, and how long it may last. Coffee and dessert dates can be a nice, short date as well - perfect for a first meeting. The most important thing to do up front is to not give the impression that you're free for the day. What if she makes herself free for the day, and is busy planning in her own mind that you'll spend it together? That might be VERY uncomfortable if the attraction doesn't exist. Good luck! I hope this helps!
2006-09-01 02:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay and chat until your date has finished, Don't be rude just because your date isn't attractive. Get to know her first and if you still don't think anything could happen just explain that you thought you where ready to move on from your previous relationship but your not and it would be unfair to your date to take any further steps while your still thinking and in love with your ex!......OR you can get someone to call you half hour into the date, If your not happy tell her that was your mum and you have to go as there has been an emergency but if your happy just let it ring!! Good Luck!!
2006-09-01 02:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Vix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How blind is the date? Have you spoken on the phone? Do you at least know you like her...maybe not attracted to her but like her? Then you could just hang out with her have dinner, drinks, whatever and have fun without feeling like you have to go any further..the end.
But if you never even talked to her and end up not liking her at all, then I would finish dinner or whatever and say you need an early night, work in the am or some excuse...she'll get the hint, you weren't nasty or rude...move on
2006-09-01 02:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what type of first date is it? dinner? just a drink? have you spoken to her on the phone first? how did you arrange the meet?
dont just walk out on her in the first 30 mins of meeting her , give her the benefit of the doubt, shes probably thinking the same about you , at least give it an hour or two otherwise its just plain rude and makes you very shallow, if your only meeting for a drink you could arrange for somebody to give you a call an hour after you meet her and you can decide to leave or stay , say its your mum or somebody, somethings happened and you have to leave, but if you like her you can say hi to your mate and leave it there and carry on with your date
she might just have the same plan up her sleeve! so beware lol
good luck :)
2006-09-01 02:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by sam g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're worried about how long you have to stay with your date in the event you don't like her, then a good way to first date/blind date is just meeting over coffee. The atmosphere at a coffee shop is pretty relaxed, inexpensive and having coffee and chatting can take as long (or short) a visit as you like without that awkward feeling of, "how do I get out of here?"
And if you find that you like her, next time invite her to dinner - it takes longer :)
2006-09-01 02:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man. You guys are ruthless. :)
Here's my take:
It's a first date. You're not marrying the girl.
Practice being gracious, for goodness sake.
You may find that, while you don't want to date her, that she may be a good business contact... or someone with knowledge that you could benefit from.... or, dare I say it, she may be interesting.
Have a drink. Smile. Everyone has redeeming qualities. Give it 45 minutes of your life.
2006-09-01 02:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be far to rude to leave early, go through with the whole date, then after make it clear that although you had a nice time you are not interested. There is a servere lack of courtesy in the world today, do not add to it.
2006-09-01 02:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a back up plan. get a mate to call 30 minutes into date, if you want out you can make an excuse (problem at home/work whatever)and leave. but be nice, looks arent everything
2006-09-01 03:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by mz.hunnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it as soon as you see her just tell he your mates forced you into it and your quite happy being single at the moment. Stay for a drink then go. If you haven't got the guts check her out from afar if she's minging run for it.
2006-09-01 02:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by bad-dreemz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋