My wife is not sloopy but she sits in unorganized places and stuff all over the floor all day and doensn't clean until the next morning. She say the child keeps her busy, but when I am at hom watching our child I still have time to clean. I just get my daughter to help or sit her down until I am finished.
2006-09-01 01:27:48 · 17 answers · asked by Chuck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kids act a WHOLE lot different around thier fathers. A normal day for a mom at home with the kids is they are constantly messing the house up. Moms get tired, cause 9 out of 10 the kids dont really listen that well to mommy. I think she is lucky to have you to help when you get home. I think it would be a great idea if her and the child gets out of the house during the day. THis will help with most of the mess. I truly think that when you get home each day, your wife is happy cause she can have a break. Raising kids is a full time job.
2006-09-01 01:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I notice when I start a new job all the people who have been there a long time are always busy while I can't seem to figure out until I have been there a week or two everything that needs to be done. This is you when you stay home occasionally to watch the children. There are things in your wife's 'workplace' that keep her busy that you don't even notice. Also, she probably spends more time just 'being' with your child.
Most important--she is not you. You probably are very tidy and organized and she may be more laid back. AND..is she bored?
This is an age old quandary between people who live together, not just husbands and wives. Good luck.
2006-09-01 01:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by bcd95 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are her master (teasing of course).. and if the chores are not done when you get home, she gets a spanking... maybe she'll get into the playing side and realize she has a role as a wife and mother... of course, tell her you are going to begin rewarding her like you do the kids for a "job" well done... then give her a nail appointment in the form of a certificate you purchased placed under her morning coffee mug or on her pillow.
You men have to stop assuming they are happy. Maybe she is in a rut and needs your romance and shove (wink) to get her to be appreciated.
If you aren't mean to her, I bet you can train her in no time. Just do it positively and with compassion, like her best friend would.. (and aren't you suppose to be her best friend?)
2006-09-01 01:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,ya know my husband makes the same comments. But I love to do things with both of my children so I will drop what every I am doing to spend time with them. I work full time and so when I can spend quality time with my children I do. But when they are with their dad outside playing or off on a ride I will clean but my children will always come first and that is the way it should be.
2006-09-01 01:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her some new cleaning equipment - a new sweeping brush, mop & bucket, bleach and washing up gloves (preferrably pink and girly). This should motivate her to take on the challenge of cleaning about the house.
You could also buy her something pretty - women like that!
2006-09-01 01:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by ladycarmelkent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is having a hard time with time managemnet...
go to coping.org
it's a site that has some personal growth tools! it's a nice site for just about evey possible angle in your life! as well as stuff for help kids!
never hurts!
I'm currently doing the tools for personal growth has a list of stuff to do my mother and i are doing it she has feel into a trap of low self esttem and she freaks out over everything! and we switched roles i feel like the mom so i brought this up to her and she is loving it! and learning alot!
Mad luv
Hope it helps
2006-09-01 01:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, the question every man has asked since the beginning of domestic violence laws. Good luck and let us all now if you figure this one out.
While your at it, if you can figure out how to get my wife to eat less and exercise more, that would be a great help too.
2006-09-01 01:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and let her know that you don't like it. It is better to communicate it and it helps in the relationship. One thing you can do is look at what she leaves outside and try to arrange the area. It could also be the t.v or the computer that takes her time...
2006-09-01 01:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by SemperLeader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 04:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that when people are unorganized they just don't have a tactic for organization...she doesn't seem to mind, it's not a priorty as it is for you. It's not that important, ease up on the "expectations".
2006-09-01 01:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋