My wife is leaving me and I know that if I can just keep her from drifting away and sit down to talk about our issues we will be ok. But her parents have a strong hold on her and keep pressure on to just walk away from me and stay tight to them. I only want her to actually stop and give "us" a chance to work out our issues.
2006-09-01 01:15:42 · 8 answers · asked by mark g 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Mythology & Folklore
Ask her straight out who it was she married.
Ask her if she really cares about the relationship at all or ever did.
You can't make her listen.
You can only say a few words that might shock her enough to listen for a moment...make them good.
"Offer" to go to counseling with her.
2006-09-01 01:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her reaction to leave will be based on a behaviour you are or have exhibited.
You need to face the fact that her problem lies with you and not her or her parents. Once you can face that, then you can try and figure out what the real problem is and deal with it.
If you can, get some professional counselling. Even if she won't attend with you, you may well learn some ways to salvage the situation.
If you can't get counselling then try talking to her friends - don't pressure them with trying to get them to change her mind, instead try and get them to help you understand what you are doing wrong. (Which in time will get back to her as a positive thing).
Best of luck.
2006-09-01 01:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by BlokeThinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to leave then let her go,it will hurt for a while, but it will be for the best,then after its all over you will wonder why didnt break up with her in the first place instead of trying to keep a hold something that isnt gonna work. Plenty more fish in the sea!
2006-09-01 02:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by baz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does she want to leave you? are the "us" issues "your" issues that you're trying to transfer as "our" issues to keep from taking responsibility for "your" behavior?? Why do her parents encourage her to walk away after they accepted her going to you in marriage?? Or did they? Are you keeping her from seeing her parents for any reason? Do you have a control issue? Does she? Does she love you? Have you neglected her and/or her feelings? Her security? Why won't she talk to you? Do you listen to her? Or do you try to fix her? Have you betrayed her? Do you love her?
2006-09-01 07:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by 000000000000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a big romantic guesture, something that means a lot to HER!!!! Not just a dinner and flowers, lets just say for arguments sake she likes the sea, take her to a secluded beach area and have a romantic dinner there!!! Do something special!
Good luck!
2006-09-01 01:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by roooof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want her to give YOU another chance.
You say give "us" a chance to work out our issues. If you really love her and its not working out, ask yourself why? You seem to blame the parents.
2006-09-01 01:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ne Obliviscaris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you and your wife. God hates divorce, I will stand in the gap for you and ask The Father to heal your relationship and the two of you from the things keeping you apart.
God bless you.
Pastor Chris
2006-09-01 01:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jesus freak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just doesn't love you anymore. Maybe you have said or done something that made her want to leave you. I don't believe her parents have anything to do with it, they probably just agree, which is good for her, because they can support her.
Maybe she really doesn't want to be with you anymore. It happens. It's sad for you, and I am sorry for you, but maybe you should just let her go.
2006-09-01 01:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by lindavankerkhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋