Is it bad to regret not getting together with someone you really liked but you had a girlfriend at the time who lived abroad? I really liked this girl but loved my girlfriend, but she was miles away and we were growing apart. Serious only
2006-09-01 01:13:29 · 14 answers · asked by DB4GTZ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You create your own destiny, you have to live with it and move on from decisions you think otherwise.
2006-09-01 01:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regretting something is good!- helps you make better decisions in the future.
Dwelling on a regret and slowly letting it poison you is a bad thing. Especially when it starts to effect how you are living today.
You could have dumped you girlfriend who lived abroad and gone with the someone you really liked, only for her to dump you and run off with the post man. You'd have regretted that too!
You have what you have, and you are where you are. All that matters is what you are doing right now. Everyone regrets a relationship that didn't go the way they wanted. Just make sure you make the most of the relationships you have now.
2006-09-01 08:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by BlokeThinx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's always normal to have regrets and wonder "what if" in this situation, I've been in long distance relationships in the past and have been through the same thing. You just have to ask yourself if you're really interested in the other girl, or is it because she's available while the girl you love isn't; or are you really drifting apart from your girlfriend, in which case it's time for you to have a serious chat with your girlfriend... chances are if you feel that your drifting apart she may as well, in either case you owe it to her to discuss your feelings, holding that stuff in isn't healthy for you or the relationship. Good luck.
2006-09-01 08:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by simplyrelaxinginblvl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask to your mind answer from your heart and u will get the answer. you had a girl friend and what mades u to grow apart? time and distance can never affect a true love, even though u r far away u can feel the presence of ur love if u truly love him/her. nothing can make a love apart including distance, if u say yes then it was not true love. never make someone to shed their tears because of you if u did like that then its the biggest mistake you ever did to that person. if suppose if u go far away from ur new lover will u forget this girl and u will find new one? if the answer is yes then may be u never have a heart to love and understand a person. love never means physical exsitsance u dont need someone who is physicaly with u ... do u need? if so its a physical love
2006-09-01 08:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by nisha alphonse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are only in places we are meant to be at for that time. If you and your girlfriend are growing apart like you said - then the relationship isn't meant to be even if you say you love her. Maybe your "season" with her is over and you need to move on and so should she. Maybe clear the air once and for all so in case you meet someone you think you can have a productive relationship with without the benefit of long distances - then nothing and no one will hold you back and you can be happy if not happy-yer.....lol
2006-09-01 08:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no point wasting time and feelings on regret. You can't change it now, as it's in the past, so don't worry about it and get on with your life.
NB This is a don't worry about it if you can. It's not 'bad' to regret, but it doesn't help anything. If you do regret it, then hopefully time will let you get over it.
2006-09-01 08:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Steve-Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in regret.
As we walk along a path that forks and goes off in different directions, we choose the path that we choose. As all paths go in roughly the same direction, is there any point in regretting the choice of path at the fork?
There is some point in understanding your decision making process, but that is not regret!
2006-09-01 08:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by James 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it was bad. It seems normal really. Your GF was far away and you were growing apart. Seems like you were lonely or something, you needed someone.
2006-09-01 08:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by intenseone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. We can't tell you what to do because we're not you. If you know how you feel then go for it. Don't just stand there waiting.
2006-09-01 08:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not. Get your head out of the past. It will ruin your future!!
2006-09-01 08:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by wildraft1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋