with one of my friends?
2006-09-01 01:03:56 · 26 answers · asked by vincent b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU NEED TO ASK ??????
1. They are not a friend
2. Tell them you know
3. Leave
OR
3. Look stupid when they laugh at you and prove u r wrong
2006-09-01 01:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to the root of the problem right now. Approach your wife with what you know and then go to your friend. You have the right to take care of this matter. Usually the person having an affair will lie through their teeth so don't expect honesty. You can expect deception.
If you are not comfortable with the way things turnout then be prepared for a separation/ divorce. People having affairs are really sneaky. They will stop at nothing to see each other. You might need to get some sort of tangible evidence if you want this thing to go to court.
Unless you are rich or there is substancial amounts of money or propety involved in your marriage, I would not worry so much about getting a lot of proof however. Lawyers, Private Investigater and court cost will drain you. Be prepare to move on with your life without a cheater.
2006-09-01 08:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had affairs for years and we were married for nearly 25 years. Leopards never change their spots, so don't think that if you let it go, or forgive them and try again you can ever trust them. You will find that after a while you will start dying from the inside out. You cannot discuss it with friends and family, you feel somehow disloyal. So it stays trapped inside you eating your heart out.
Don't allow her to do it to you, let her go. Find someone as I have now done, who really loves you for yourself.
You are at the moment a victim - DON'T BE ONE, TAKE CONTROL. There are a lot of decent, loving, faithful women out there and one is waiting for you., you just have to look for her.
Try an ad in the lonely hearts column, I did and it worked for me, we have been together 3 years this Sunday.
Good luck Sue
2006-09-01 08:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Susan E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself what you want to do. Is it something that you are going to be able to talk to her about and resolve? Can you forgive her? Do you have children together? How will you feel possibly being an absent parent? Are you going to be able to let the affair go and not hold it against her in the future? You really need to confront her in a non confrontational manner. No matter what you decide to do you need some closure on the matter. You will only be able to get it from her.
2006-09-01 08:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one guy....I hope there are no kids involved. If there are, you'll find out that it doesn't matter if you or her are cheating. You'll still lose the kids and pay. If no kids are involved, count your loses and move on----SHE'S A WHORE AND WILL ALWAYS BE ONE!!!! If there is financial assets to split, grab what you can (since she doesn't deserve it or probably earned her fair share) and get legal help before you let on to her. Make sure all is in order before you serve her divorce papers. Don't be foolish enough to get violent with him (or her) since she is the one you made a commitment with. Try to hold her responsible (courts are against you especially with kids), but be a true man and hold your ground. It will be tough, but you'll be a far better individual for this. She offers nothing but lies and there are women out there that will help you grow. Good luck and be firm!
2006-09-01 08:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by strong and soft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her, also talk with your friend, or better still why not just get them both together and ask them together, once you know the truth move on from there, if you love her and can forgive her then tell her you are willing to save the marriage, if they love each other and they want to be together let her go and move forward yourself. Either way this will hurt you so much.
Good luck, and remember you may never forget but you can forgive.
2006-09-01 08:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Caro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As to Join in?? No, seriously, I guess you guys don't have an open relationship like that....not sure why she is having an affair in the first place anyway but I would seriously talk to her or get marriage counseling.
2006-09-01 08:06:08 · answer #7 · answered by bradnmich2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry about your wife, I've been cheated on too, and it doesnt have to mean it's over. You guys need to pull together to make it work. Here's a link that helped us. Hope you make it.
2006-09-02 10:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. eventhough it is painful you should talk with her and tell her that u know everything and you are really upset due to she didn't respect you, your love for her, and the marriage.. I'm sorry for you.. but I know sometimes it is very hard to tell someone that we love please walk out the door.. but it is necessary.. if we want to be happier than now.. and if we want to try to built our life and looking for something better..
With your friend.. well.. close the friendship he is not right, sincere and honest friend. Sorry sorry for u but go on.. Close the door and one bigger will be open to you.. maybe someone is looking for you..
2006-09-01 08:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by tufty2310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave or for being a lying sack of s**t and smash his teeth down the back of his throat for the same reason.
2006-09-01 08:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋