Statistics show that an abused child has a tendency to be an abusive adult/parent?

Question

What are your opinions? If this is the cycle of behavior, what do you (or have you done) to prevent?
How has this affected your behavior as an adult, and inter-relationships?
If Therapy is an option, do you believe that it must be an ongoing process for yourself and your Family?

Answer 1

without divine intervention, people have strong tendencies to repeat the behaviors they were taught as children.

to prevent my own descent into madness, i gave my life to Jesus Christ, my Savior.

abuse in my childhood has left me wary of all intimacy.

therapy is a good thing. people need each other.

Answer 2

I think it definitely can be a cycle. Therapy is necessary in order to break any cycle. However, there are two different types of people (in general) that abuse spawns. One is an aggressor and the other is passive. Both types need therapy. In circumstances where it isn't possible to get the whole family therapy, hopefully the children and who they grow up to be will see the necessity of therapy.

And speaking of therapy, I think it's better now than when I was a kid. When we went as a family, there was never any time where the parents and children were separated. So it was impossible to ever tell the truth without fearing the consequences. It was a completely worthless use of time, and eventually it ended without the counselor ever making any real progress. When I grew up a bit more, I felt bad for her, because she had some clues but no real definite evidence of what was happening. But I mostly felt angry for how it all went down.

Answer 3

Therapy is a good help to avoid future troubles..that not necessary should be in abusive adult..but selfish, or rigorous or other nature... For sure at the beginning it involves just you maybe in a second time could involve the family.. but it is important that a therapy should start... and like a trip in memories, in oneself.. to discover where, when and how wrong behavior of others has affected our person...

Answer 4

I have a lot of close friends who have been abused and in my experience, they have either grown up being completely afraid of opening up to anyone and have sheltered themselves, or they have been extremely violent. I definaltly think therapy helps, but to resolve something as deep as this, it will be an ongoing process!! preventing it as a child is much more easily fixed if they are taken out of the situasion and gotten help. by the time someone is an adult trying to deal with everything it is much more complex!! although, I realize, in most situasions, kids aren't taken out of an abusive home, so they end up having to deal with it as adults...
I could go on and on about this subject...and if you would like me too, let me know:)

Answer 5

I personally come from a family that was full of mental,physical,and verbal abuse.And instead of ending up in the news or on some talk show because i was mistreated.I chose to be different,to raise my children without abuse.So far so good.My daughter is a freshman in high school this year and makes good grades,good decisions and all in all a pretty good kid.God bless

Answer 6

I think in most cases yes, but not in my case. I was abused as a child but turned those feelings of hurt around. I made a vow to myself that I would give my children the kind of life that I never had. All 3 are coming into thier teenage years, and I think they would tell you that I have been a great father to them. It is all up to you to change. It's your life.......are you who you want to be?

Answer 7

i was abused, but i am not abusive...

my parents were racist homophobes, but i have friends from different ethnic backgrounds and of different sexual orientations...

so the claims are bogus!!!! you only become something that you really WANT to become... there is NO cylce... some people become abusers for no other reason, than they wanted to be and were treated properly as kids...