of this minority one typical theme emeges and that is that they are in loyal and long term relashionships themselves. Is this a phsycological condition, or am i unique..............cheers, matt
2006-09-01 00:41:32 · 16 answers · asked by Matt d 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No I totally get you.. I feel the same maybe someone once in a while will get where i'm coming from & be on the same level. Even if there good looking charming or not.. If they don't get where your coming from its not easy to find a connection. I just think you are fussy & want the best you can get. There is nothing wrong with that I tell you. I have always been fussy personality wise If someone doesn't make you tick then whats the point hey. I believe in passion & its very rare. Your certianly not the only one in that position! Well I wish you the best of luck in finding someone special for you.xx
2006-09-01 01:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by Fel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be an array of psychological reasons or it could be that you just haven't met the right person yet. I felt exactly like you 4 months ago and now I'm engaged. I went from the age of 23 to 35 without being in a serious relationship because I didn't want to deal with all of the drama. (and no, this isn't because I am unattractive and I still had a sex life) But then WHAM, I met the right person and I am glad that I had stayed single and didn't settle for anything before. Be patient but also be honest with yourself and make sure you are not sabotaging yourself.
2006-09-01 01:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unique, you may just want something you cant have, and thus that adds to the attraction.
Also it may be that people in relationships are more open and relaxed and this characteristic comes through. if they are in a young relationship, there is a probability that they are still "dressing to impress" and thus you see a slightly fake person. Those that are comfortable with themselves may either be completely laid back and thus, what you see is what you get.
Equally, many who are not in a relationship try too hard and come across as anxious and nervous.
Think you need to look at what aspects you find attractive in people and then go from there
2006-09-04 23:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by kt_staniford 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way I can understand what you have stated, is to assume that you are very young and/or are very good looking, or, are a little bit gay, or, very unsure of yourself or, perhaps have a very low sex drive. Because, the vast majority of guys with a normal sex drive would have sex with almost any woman, within the usual age range.
I wouldn't say that you are unique, but there can't be too many of you around.
2006-09-04 10:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that either you just haven't been lucky yet,or that find these women attractive because you can't have them. Thus deeming that the relationship will fail. Maybe you are sabotaging yourself to fail because you have some deep seated commitment phobia. By avoiding these issues by sabotaging yourself you are not dealing with the root cause. I'd say ask yourself some hard questions and see a counsellor/shrink.
2006-09-03 06:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the first things people are attracted to when you meet someone is their physical side of them(how they look, dress,how tall,etc). It's just humanity. The way the world is going these days more and more people are choosing a life of sex first, marriage alot later down the track. Stats show. So to sum this all up, it's not you, it's society.
2006-09-01 00:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I have a similar problem. I can't seem to trust guys. If I get asked out I assume that a guy doesn't like me for me. I am also usually attracted to unattainable guys. I had a crush on a homosexual guy once... It was very embarrassing! I also think that people who are in serious relationships are happier, more dependable, and therefore more attractive for someone who is looking for a serious relationship. If I were you, I wouldn't be too worried about your problem.
2006-09-01 00:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kitkat Bar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you one of those: the things i can't get are the best ones?
good luck with that. i had that over years and i faced very 'lovely' erlationship with a bisexual, a guy who lived 1000 miles away and some guy who was in another realtionship.
i understood after a few years that i (just like them) don't really want to comit to anyone. (even if i thought i wanted - it was just not true)
now i have a guy - been with him for 4 years now - and even though he is sweet and nice and always there for me i still think: where is the next guy who is out of my reach so i can climb the highest hills to make him love me?
silly but true.....
2006-09-01 00:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is psychological you like women who have to confidence and mental stability of being in a relationship. Perhaps subliminally you recognize these women are in relationships and seek these women out to prevent you from having to deal with a relationship.
2006-09-01 00:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not unique, just unsure of yourself and reality. My advice, seek the opposite of yourself and you will be much happier. Live a little and quit worrying.
2006-09-01 00:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋