I've been mates with a guy for about 2 years. When we go out we usally have a laugh. He jioned a biker gruop and I didn't see much of him till last week. We had an accident and I came off his bike and badly hurt my knee. He got hurt too broke some ribs but went home. I was in hospital for 6 weeks. He hasn't even bothered to find out how I am. Should I give up on this frienship?
2006-09-01 00:29:26 · 29 answers · asked by charlotte e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I meant six days not six weeks.
2006-09-01 00:30:40 · update #1
i can understand why you feel like that and i think i would feel the same. I would try and get in touch with him to test the water and if after that he didn't get back to you or wasn't very forthcoming you should leave it. He really should have checked you were ok if he was a good friend. I think he's either moved on or too ashamed(i'd be tempted to think he's moved on to be honest tho, especially if you didn't see him much before the accident) but there could be alsorts of reasons, maybe he's lost his phone with your no and in too much pain to come round? good luck x
2006-09-01 00:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by CazW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it with all these women thinking he may not have contacted you because he is feeling guilty? What a load of twaddle, if he was any kind of a man he would have contacted you soon and often and at least sent you flowers in hospital with a note of apology.
I'm sure he's spent a lot more time worrying about his bike and getting that repaired than he has about you.
Even if the accident wasn't his fault he was still responsible for you and he clearly is accepting no responsibility for you now.
No matter how much of a laugh you may have together there is no substance to this guy and he's not worth it.
Find a new circle of friends if you have to but be pro-active in what you do not reactive. take control of your own life and don't leave it in the hands of jerks like him.
Good luck and happy hunting!
2006-09-01 01:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 05:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be two reasons for why he hasn't come around since you got hurt. One could be that he simply doesn't care and is going about his life. Or two, he feels guilty about the fact that you got hurt and doesn't want to face it. You know this guy better than we do. Does he care about you enough to feel bad or not? If it's cuz he really doesn't care, then end the friendship. You don't need friends like that.
2006-09-01 00:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and this guy are really good friends, it seems that 6 weeks is long enough to get over any embarrassment he may feel for dumping his bike with you on the back. Maybe he feels you are responsible, or maybe he's afraid that you are going to sue!!!!!!!! In any case, I say this guy has apparently moved on without thought of you...Maybe you should do the same.
2006-09-01 00:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Spokette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a moron! Yes you need to give up on this "friendship". Before you rush into things though make sure that he hasnt a genuine reason - like hes not lying in hospital himself somewhere or something like that. If he is home and just hadnt bothered then forget him. Who needs enemies when you have mates like him
2006-09-01 00:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spend less time worrying about that and more as to making some new friends. Friendship takes two people like any relationship. I wouldn't put 100% effort into a friendship if the "friend" isn't putting anything back.
2006-09-01 00:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he died, and thats the reason why he coudnt find out how you were...
SO! let me get this straight, you just hurt your knees and spent 6 days in hospital and he BROKE his ribs and he went home... shouldnt you be the one finding out how he is, since he was the one badly injured and beside it was an accident. STOP bieng Selfish.
2006-09-01 00:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by -mystery- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that if a person cares, they would check up on you.
I also believe that everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
I would probably get in contact with him, either by telephone or go and see him.
I hope that for your sake that he is feeling too guilty to contact you but if it isnt the case then you deserve much better.
Leah
2006-09-01 00:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after 2 years of friendship its probably worth talking to him and asking why he hasn't been in touch. It could be that he feels really guilty because you got hurt so badly.
Don't give up on it just yet!
2006-09-01 00:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy The Fish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋