I love a guy and he keeps hurting me. but the more I hate him, the more I love him. I want to let him off my mind. I need an advice..
2006-09-01 00:14:53 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have someone who i love more than anyone else in the world but hate at the same time because they kept hurting me over and over. I think the more i hated them from hurting, the more i realized how much i loved them. Almost 10 years apart and I am still in love with them. My heart wants them more than anyone and would do anything to have them, but my mind knows that it would be the worst most unhealthy relationship and that i therefore cannot have them. I found a book called "how to break your addition to a person" or something like that which talks about the difference between love and addiction, and i found that emotionless sex with others helps to feel like you have something even if you dont. But nothing can beat finding someone new who you love even more and who DOESN'T hurt you. I hope that will happen to me, BUT you have to be careful of transferrence. I find myself falling in love with someone new who isn't very good to me, or at least hasn't been lately. i get stood up and ignored a lot. i'm thinking my feelings are more infatuation than love since we have very little foundation between each other. I'm ready to give up, and i think simply giving up is a solution many people take. You really just have to look at yourself though. Someone once told me that you can not rely on anyone but yourself. if you rely completely on someone else, even if it's a good thing, what if something were to happen like an accident and they were gone? you'd be back to yourself. you have to learn to live with and love yourself before you can really be ready to handle someone else, and then go about it carefully.
2006-09-01 00:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just leave him alone. It is a sick, unhealthy relationship. I've had my love for someone turn into hate but deep down it was love. but he hurt me so much, i just walked away and I don't ever want to be with him again.
2006-09-01 00:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been in this situation before. However, I my love to him is over spill till I cant find myself hating him.... I love him in anyway any momment even he hurt me before.
You can be as silly as me but make sure you mind set is possitive enough to lead a constructive life loving him.....
2006-09-01 00:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by CH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, Love should never be hard work, life is hard enough as it is. I think you are addicted to the thrill and the ups and downs. You will soon learn that this is shite and dump him
2006-09-01 00:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Abigail 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my wife. Seriously that isn't a whole lot to go on. Maybe you like some part of it even if you don't think you do.
2006-09-01 00:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you love them but hate what they do,if your going to move on,do so.When you find another love,you;ll forget about him.Good luck.
2006-09-01 00:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just lack attention. or maybe he is not in to you. but just be true to yourself that when the that time comes,youre already to be broken hearted and to love again.
2006-09-01 00:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by My_Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yup.my mom....
about your prob...im not really sure what to give you as an advice...
"I love her/him so much that i hate her/him even more for hurting me"
2006-09-01 00:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jacky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just gotta find someone else to help you take your mind off of him, otherwise your going to drive yourself crazy...message me if you would like to chat, i can help
2006-09-01 00:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him directly and express these thoughts and see how he reacts.
2006-09-01 00:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by r3raju 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋