hi
i hv a silly problem..i am 20 yrs old ...i am not comfortable when i am in a group of people and i cant talk properly ... i never go and inititate a chat with anyone ..i am an introvert
and i feel ridiculous about it ...it has happened with me that i have spent time with someone and when i meet them again i totally ignore them as if i dont know them..
people think i hv an attitude..how can i overcome it..hmmmmmmm
dont know
cheers
boeing
2006-08-31 23:48:56 · 8 answers · asked by boeing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The fact that you have recognised you have this problem so early in life means you are not dumb. You know your weakness and want to overcome it. Good thinking. The problem with you is that you dont think much of yourself. You underestimate yourself. Dont do it. Write on a piece of paper all that you are good at. Try to enhance these further by working at them to be productive. Keep periodical track of the improvement. That will give you a mental high - a sense of well being. Next note down your weaknesses - perhaps you dont have worthy hobbies, or you dont have a steady friend, or you are alone at home most times. Try to work on your weak points one by one, one day at a time. If you want best results, you must work hard and give it sufficient time. Make it a point to talk to one new person every day. Even if it means a small child or an aged person. Smile at people - its infectious! When you flash a genuine smile at a stranger, you cannot imaging the power it has! It will not only make the person smile right back at you, but your face will linger on in their mind for a while at least as 'pleasant'. From now on, whenever you meet a person for the second time, go up to him/her and say hello - its nice to see you or some such appropriate thing. Rehearse the words in your mind if you must, but just do it. Even if you stutter, dont be dismayed; continue it and I assure you, in time you will get over it and become noticed and popular. I think you want to overcome your problem - thats why you write about it. Now work at it. Success will come slowly, but surely. Best of luck!
2006-09-01 00:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was shy too when i was your age. a few years later after a totally embarrassing performance trying to give a sales talk to 50 people my boss forced me to take the Dale Carnegie course. I hated it. But, I am no longer shy.
The course is relatively expensive, but you can get his books at the library. start with the first one, "how to win friends and influence people". Basically, it's all about sincerity, and focusing on others not yourself. Keep in mind these books were written long ago.
It worked for me. Good luck.
2006-09-01 00:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by bttrswt1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens at 20 ur still okay i had the same problem,try read and specialise in something like poltics sports relationship movies and this will win u over friends it aint a problem just a matter of tyme u will overcome it
2006-08-31 23:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not the only one like that since i broke up with me 1st b i try to keep to my self and yeh if some one comes over to talk to me with 2 or three other ppl i say hey hows its going and usely after they answer i walk away i dont do it to be rude ( i know it sounds rude ) but thats just me i dont like been around ppl
2006-08-31 23:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem ...I was told it was social anxiety... was given wellbutrin...not much difference with the meds though..you should speak to a counselor. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-01 02:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by hthr34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to get into therapy for this before you can't leave the house.
2006-09-01 00:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone....i have the same prob...people say that i've got F@*# off written on my head...i dont have a answer for your Q.....but ur not alone...
2006-08-31 23:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by ET 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋